Lonely loner

[Hawkfish]

I'm alone in my world. You would think me being a social phob woudn't care about friends. I have none mostly because my mother never lets me leave the house. I go to homeschool even! I have never had friends yet I have a yearning. I try to purge myself by saying "I'm alone and no one can control me and destroy me" and sometimes it works. I feel droopy and sad but, mostly lonely. I feel no one not even my family gives a damn about me I'm truly alone in my world.:sad:

[Ruby]

Your mother never lets you leave the house?

[Hawkfish]

Your mother never lets you leave the house?

Yep not even to go to the backyard. ):

[Vladimir Putin's LJ]

Yep not even to go to the backyard. ):
That's... really disturbing, to be quite honest. Does she just keep you -locked up in the house? Why does she do this?

[Hawkfish]

That's... really disturbing, to be quite honest. Does she just keep you -locked up in the house? Why does she do this?
Because she is paranoid to an extream she believes I will get kidnapped out of the blue. It does not need to make sense.

[EvilCrazyMonkey]

Ugh, how old are you? That's slightly ridiculous. Maybe you can let her "watch" you go outside of the house just to see that it only rarely happens. If you can find any statistics or anything (as long as they agree with you), show them to her.

Hmph. You can always tell her "I'm <insert age>, I'm able to walk outside without something horrible happening to me." Well, depending on your mom, that may or may not work.. :V

[Hawkfish]

Ugh, how old are you? That's slightly ridiculous. Maybe you can let her "watch" you go outside of the house just to see that it only rarely happens. If you can find any statistics or anything (as long as they agree with you), show them to her.

Hmph. You can always tell her "I'm <insert age>, I'm able to walk outside without something horrible happening to me." Well, depending on your mom, that may or may not work.. :V
I'm fifteen damn it and I get treated as if I'm three. And I don't think it'll work. Ive tried that already.

[Spaekle]

Damn, I thought my parents were bad. There are a bunch of places I can't go because apparently I'll be carried off by minority races and raped. Plus I still have parental controls. I find ways around them, but it's still really freaking ridiculous. :V

I tried the whole "what the fuck guys I'm fifteen" thing back when I was fifteen, and they were like "YOU'RE STILL A KID WTF YOU NEED SHELTERED FROM THE EVIL IN THE WORLD D: D: D:" and they seem to think that I don't watch things with swearing or violence, let alone that I hear and/or say the word 'fuck' like 20 times a day at school.

Parents like that tend to be influenced by all the horror stories on the news of kids getting kidnapped, without realizing that the majority of people that this crap happens to tend to be pretty stupid. In the end, all it really does is leave kids sheltered and terrified of the real world once they're out in it. Parents who do this are also the sort who seem to think that all of your opinions that differ with theirs are wrong because you're a retarded kid who will change your mind about everything the instant you grow up, so I don't think changing their minds will be an easy task. :\ Dunno what to tell you, really, but I do hope they pull the sticks out of their asses soon. :]

[Hawkfish]

Parents like that tend to be influenced by all the horror stories on the news of kids getting kidnapped, without realizing that the majority of people that this crap happens to tend to be pretty stupid. In the end, all it really does is leave kids sheltered and terrified of the real world once they're out in it. Parents who do this are also the sort who seem to think that all of your opinions that differ with theirs are wrong because you're a retarded kid who will change your mind about everything the instant you grow up, so I don't think changing their minds will be an easy task. :\ Dunno what to tell you, really, but I do hope they pull the sticks out of their asses soon. :]
Yeah I know about the tv. She watches that crap all the time.

[Mewtwo]

i feel sorry for you hawkfish.i'm 11 and i leave the house when i want to,but i have a limit of where i can go.

[Hawkfish]

i feel sorry for you hawkfish.i'm 11 and i leave the house when i want to,but i have a limit of where i can go.

Wow you can actually leave the house? When I was your age I wasn't allowed to have internet even... I must seem really weird to you guys..

[Furretsu]

That's borderline abusive. o_O

[opaltiger]

Not borderline; near as I can tell, in direct violation of Articles 19 (paragraph 1) and 27 (paragraph 1) of the Convention on the Rights of the Child. Maybe Articles 29 and 31, too.

Unless you live in the US, which hasn't signed it.

[Hawkfish]

Not borderline; near as I can tell, in direct violation of Articles 19 (paragraph 1) and 27 (paragraph 1) of the Convention on the Rights of the Child. Maybe Articles 29 and 31, too.

Unless you live in the US, which hasn't signed it.

I live in the United States.

[Walker]

Can't give specific laws, but I'm fairly certain that could be considered abuse. :V


Also, what does your dad think about all of this, or do you not have one? And uh, does she even let you go to visit other relatives with her, or is that a no-no too?

[Zora of Termina]

Wow, you can't even go outside? That is just fucking retarded, yo. Yes, I do believe it IS abusive, no matter how paranoid the parent is. And she won't even let you have friends? Dayamn.

If I could think of advice for this, I would tell you, but the only thing I can think of is to at least try and get out at night when she's asleep. :/

[Zim Del Invasor]

I'm pretty sure that's some form of abuse. You aren't even allowed in your backyard? Wow. I agree that running away at night could be a good idea. Hope you can find something to do that will work.

I know I suck at advice, there's a reason I barely post in these threads.

[ultraviolet]

Run away at night. It's what I'd do.

[Cryssie]

That does sound like a pretty terrible situation, but what help would running away be? Do you have anywhere to go? Besides, if she wakes up to find you've disappeared out into the big, scary, evil world on your own in the middle of the night, that is going to do nothing good for her bad case of paranoia. By the sound of it, she'd probably keep you in your room under lock and key once she got you back.

If she's so keen to drink up every word the media feeds her, have her look at several articles about the dangers of keeping kids cooped up inside all the time instead. See how she likes those...

[Capitain Jay]

I am shocked and apalled. Your mother is, to put it bluntly, is a freak. Not letting you out of the house? That's just so over-protective. You should put your shoes on, open the front door and walk out. Be defiant. Walk out of that door, and go somewhere. Not too far, just in case you get lost, but far enough to get that breath of fresh air you need. Refuse to go back inside until you feel your mother has learnt her lesson. If she even lays a finger on you to get you back inside, that is the point where, if you were here in the UK, you'd be able to call the police. I'd imagine the US would have a similar system in place.

In short, go outside.

[Ruby]

my mother never lets me leave the house

What do you mean when you say "never"?

Are you allowed to go outside with your mother? when did you last leave the house? &c.

[Hawkfish]

What do you mean when you say "never"?

Are you allowed to go outside with your mother? when did you last leave the house? &c.
She never goes outside because she's always watching tv. I'm not free to go into my damn backyard. The people I see buy dogs. It's called paranoia. However if she's does go outside I must be right beside her. That at the most is once a month. Like getting grocerys. We wait till' we barely have any food at all... Still I'm not suppose to talk. And sometimes I'm told to stay in the car. ):


Run away at night. It's what I'd do.
I can't. What do I eat? Where do I sleep? How do I get a job? I know nobody. The only people I know are the ones who buy dogs.(my mother is a dog breeder). And most of them live at Lake Michigan. And I see them like what once? I don't even know their name. However I give them things and help them out with knowledge about dogs. It's one thing I do know. ^_^ Still they are only around what four hours and puppies are born once in six months. And you wait six weeks for them to get old enough. And you have to wait till' advertising is effective.

[Ruby]

Do you live somewhere very remote?

[Hawkfish]

Do you live somewhere very remote?

I live in a Hamlet named Hamlet. It's a small town but not really remote. We are next to a highway. Most people sleep at the motel and leave by morning. We only have a liquor store and a library the size of an average bathroom almost. We have to go to other towns to get food or well anything else. I don't call it remote since truckers driving by.

[Cirrus]

...this almost sounds like you're making it up.

Phone the police, like, any chance you get. Or a childline or something.

[Zora of Termina]

Dude, you CAN run away. It just depends on where you live, but it SHOULD be easy. All you need is to take some extra provisions and some money for when you run out of the food you brought. Then just try to find someone who will take you in, at least for a night. Cut off all ties between you and your mom.

Yes I DO think about this way too much to be healthy. :/

[Jetx]

Damn, that's absolutely ridiculous. When you finally do get the hell out of there you'll probably end up being a really timid, socially inexperienced person and you should go to some lengths to stop that from happening. Seriously, that's extremely stupid, not even the back-garden? :/

[Arylett Dawnsborough]

My mom's overprotective, though she's admittedly not as crazy (sorry for the use of that word, but it truly seems insane what she does) as yours. Not half as crazy. I don't know what to suggest, except that maybe you call the police or somebody who can help, tell them your mom's keeping you locked up in that house all day, I'm sure that'll spring them into action.

Do you have any other family? Grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc, that you can tell about this?

[Icalasari]

Wow, that is bloody paranoid.

And your location... Yikes...

Bring up with her the fact that, when you become an adult, because of her never letting you out into the world, you won't be street smart and could be murdered, mugged, etc.

...Then again, would she even let you out when you ARE an adult?

[Cryssie]

Dude, you CAN run away. It just depends on where you live, but it SHOULD be easy. All you need is to take some extra provisions and some money for when you run out of the food you brought. Then just try to find someone who will take you in, at least for a night. Cut off all ties between you and your mom.

Yes I DO think about this way too much to be healthy. :/
>< What is it with all the running away suggestions?

Fleeing the house with nowhere to go in the hopes that some random stranger will take you in is not a smart idea.

If showing her articles on the detrimental effects of overprotectiveness doesn't have any effect, there are still other ways. You say you're homeschooled - do you mean by a professional tutor? If so, inform them. Don't they know that you're never allowed out of the house? Failing that, contact the police or some other kind of authority. Clearly, you have an internet connection, so surely you have a phone, for crying out loud.

To be honest, I would be finding this difficult to believe if I took a slightly less dim view of our species... ><

You know, I'm curious. If she's so paranoid after hearing all these horror stories, why does she apparently let you browse the internet so freely? Internet usage is usually what most parents are paranoid about.

[Hawkfish]

...this almost sounds like you're making it up.

Phone the police, like, any chance you get. Or a childline or something.

The welfare did come about four two years ago. They found ''nothing wrong" since I was being fed and had a schooling. It was over schooling if your curious about welfare.
There is nothing illegal. As much as wish it was. And the police are busy making money off of people speeding.
And I wish I was making this up. ): It would be a hell a lot better.


Dude, you CAN run away. It just depends on where you live, but it SHOULD be easy. All you need is to take some extra provisions and some money for when you run out of the food you brought. Then just try to find someone who will take you in, at least for a night. Cut off all ties between you and your mom.

Yes I DO think about this way too much to be healthy. :/

The location difficult actually. I would have to cross a damn highway with truckers going down it 24 seven. I'm sorry I'm not suicidal. And I have NO money. I would have to steal it. And I know nobody. Where do I sleep and eat? And people around these parts would probably send me back. It's illegal to run away if your under 18 years of age also stealing money.


Do you have any other family? Grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc, that you can tell about this?
No, because they live out of state.
Wow, that is bloody paranoid.

And your location... Yikes...

Bring up with her the fact that, when you become an adult, because of her never letting you out into the world, you won't be street smart and could be murdered, mugged, etc.

...Then again, would she even let you out when you ARE an adult?

She won't be able to stop me when I'm eighteen. Also she's fiftysix. I highly doubt she'll live forever. But there is always a chance.
When you finally do get the hell out of there you'll probably end up being a really timid, socially inexperienced person and you should go to some lengths to stop that from happening
I already am...
>< What is it with all the running away suggestions?

Fleeing the house with nowhere to go in the hopes that some random stranger will take you in is not a smart idea.

If showing her articles on the detrimental effects of overprotectiveness doesn't have any effect, there are still other ways. You say you're homeschooled - do you mean by a professional tutor? If so, inform them. Don't they know that you're never allowed out of the house? Failing that, contact the police or some other kind of authority. Clearly, you have an internet connection, so surely you have a phone, for crying out loud.

To be honest, I would be finding this difficult to believe if I took a slightly less dim view of our species... ><

You know, I'm curious. If she's so paranoid after hearing all these horror stories, why does she apparently let you browse the internet so freely? Internet usage is usually what most parents are paranoid about.
She checks what I'm doing on the internet. Also I have a homeshool. Beka to be more exact. They send books because they are stationed at Florida.

[Icalasari]

...56?

And you're how old again?

[Hawkfish]

...56?

And you're how old again?

15. My biological father is 60. My mother had me at an old age.

[Icalasari]

...At 41?

Ok, either:
A) You ARE making this up, or
B) Now it makes more sense why she is so paranoid

Are you an only child? If so, then that would explain alot... You would be the ONLY child she ever got in her life, then, which would explain the insane amount of overprotection

[Hawkfish]

...At 41?

Ok, either:
A) You ARE making this up, or
B) Now it makes more sense why she is so paranoid

Are you an only child? If so, then that would explain alot... You would be the ONLY child she ever got in her life, then, which would explain the insane amount of overprotection
Yes I'm her only child. She had to have surgery howeverr. And I was born small. She told me that the doctors told her to not risk it but, she did anyway. I'm not sure if it's true or not.
Edit;
Also I know there is kids with older parents then I got. Like my cousin for example.

[Ambipom]

Walk outside.

She can't stop you.

[Hawkfish]

Walk outside.

She can't stop you.

I'll try that tommorow it's sorta late here. I might get grounded. But, I'm getting tired of this. It would start up a conversation at least. And I might convince her to stop ruining my life.

[opaltiger]

...At 41?

Why is this so weird. o.o My parents were 36 and 48.

[Mirry]

You'd get grounded? But you're not allowed to leave the house anyway! XD (Sorry, couldn't resist saying that.)

I'm sure there must be some sort of hotline that you can call to give you advice. I find it really hard to believe that the way your mom is treating you could be legal. :\ She sounds pretty unreasonable, so, that might be your best bet. I wouldn't try running away, unless maybe you make some good online friends who are willing to rescue you.

[Arylett Dawnsborough]

...At 41?
That's not so strange. My parents had me when they were 38 and 52. Some people have older parents.

She can't really stop you from walking outside. You need the fresh air and I'm sure it's just not healthy to keep someone cooped up like that. I suppose that seems like the best solution. Good luck!

[Vladimir Putin's LJ]

Okay, maybe it's because I was brought up when Brussels was paedoville (with Marc Dutrou and Michel Fourniret) but running away at 15 seems like a really bad idea.

Try and explain that in such an isolated location, there's an even smaller chance of some lunatic jumping in your backyard to kidnap you.

[Music Dragon]

Sounds to me like you already are kidnapped.

[Mewtwo]

man,something horrible happened yesterday(and hawkfish probably would've loved it)
my mom FORCED me to go outside yesterday.Yes,forced.
and i got to to the park over by my school.ALONE.with only an 8 or 9 year old friend.But i had a phone,so....

[Altmer]

Why is this so weird. o.o My parents were 36 and 48.

yeah but your parents are cool enough to let you meet me

this kid's parents seem like Joseph Fritzl or whatshisnamesaustriandude without the sexual abuse

either you're making this up a la Munchhausen's syndrome, or you need to get social services in there pronto and solve this shit.

[Hawkfish]

man,something horrible happened yesterday(and hawkfish probably would've loved it)
my mom FORCED me to go outside yesterday.Yes,forced.
and i got to to the park over by my school.ALONE.with only an 8 or 9 year old friend.But i had a phone,so....

o_0 Wow your mom is the antonym of mine.

Sounds to me like you already are kidnapped.
Huh?


Try and explain that in such an isolated location, there's an even smaller chance of some lunatic jumping in your backyard to kidnap you.
You ask her.

That's not so strange. My parents had me when they were 38 and 52. Some people have older parents.

She can't really stop you from walking outside. You need the fresh air and I'm sure it's just not healthy to keep someone cooped up like that. I suppose that seems like the best solution. Good luck!
I think it won't work. But I'll make it plan B. This is kinda radical. She gets really angry if I don't follow everything she says. Also I can't take another rant about all those little girls getting kidnapped and rapped.

My best bet is to convince her to let me go if my Step father is around.... It might work. If not I really am screwed. If I can convince her that. Then he can take me places. Like the library of maybe a class of some sort. Hey this thread is helping me a lot. Thanks guys. I'll see if I can fix my problem.

[Vladimir Putin's LJ]

You ask her.
Well if you reply like that what do you expect me to say.

[Altmer]

Well if you reply like that what do you excpect me to say.

I FEEL SORRY FOR YOU

Look, kiddo, if this is true, what you're saying and all, you need social services in there before you can say "Quidditch." But I think you're exaggerating and attentionwhoring this, in which case it's pretty bad. Either your parents are really stupid and can't parent for goddamn shit, which I refuse to believe since 99.9% aren't dumb enough to not let a 15 yr old in the backyard, or you're making this shit up. I really have a hard time believing this thread and if I am wrong and if this offends you, you know what to do.

Do you actually go to school or anything?

[Hawkfish]

Well I did convince her to let me go places as long as I'm with my step dad. Although that's limited. It's better than nothing. So this thread kinda useless.
Well if you reply like that what do you expect me to say.
I don't know why she does the things she does. I don't know maybe she had a rough life.
I FEEL SORRY FOR YOU
Nice sarcasm. Just because you don't believe me doesn't mean you have to be sarcastic.

[Altmer]

Nice sarcasm. Just because you don't believe me doesn't mean you have to be sarcastic.

oh thanks but I can tell when to be sarcastic and when not to be for myself ok

[Timmy]

At least you can go out with your step-dad now, that's a start.

[Zeta Reticuli]

Whatever you do, don't listen to the people who are telling you to run away. I would just cope with it for three more years, and then you can go off to college and swear at her over the phone and she can't do shit about it.

[Crazy Weavile]

Don't run away; it only works if you have somewhere to go. I'd suggest calling a police officer and explaining the situation. With any luck, you'll be able to negotiate a good setup with some defenses.

[Blaziking]

Hmm, I feel for you. Kind of. All of my friends live anywhere from 25-55 minutes away because my school is 45 minutes away and it's nearly impossible to get together with them.

[Meririn]

Call Kid's Help Phone. You could look it up in a phone book or just ask the operator for the number. They'd probably have better advice than a bunch of teenagers who like Pokemon.