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Sexuality

Sexuality?

  • I am heterosexual.

    Votes: 99 44.8%
  • I am homosexual.

    Votes: 21 9.5%
  • I am bisexual.

    Votes: 42 19.0%
  • I am pansexual.

    Votes: 11 5.0%
  • I am asexual.

    Votes: 15 6.8%
  • I don't know.

    Votes: 33 14.9%

  • Total voters
    221
sexuality labels are lame and cumbersome anyway, and should really only be used for convenience when a more detailed explanation can't be given.

This. Very much this. I mean, I agree with you on the points of asexuality being unusual/unbiological (there needs to be a better word for that), and the bi/pan differentiation seems to be different for everyone, but your last sentence is something I think people can agree on. (And kudos for airing an unpopular opinion without being a jerk.)
 
I really don't understand why you need to call yourself "pansexual"... "bisexual" tells people everything they want to know and "pansexual" I think carries more of a stigma (the very first thing that comes to my mind when someone says bisexual is the singer of mcr, the very first thing that comes to my mind when someone says pansexual is one of those satanist ritual-orgies). but do what you have to do i guess.
Read Zuu's post.
 
yeah okay but if we need the tiny subtle distinction between "i like attractive people regardless of gender"sexual and "i like both genders"sexual then we also need like 1000 other sexuality names like "i only like girls and dudes that look like girls but no other dudes"sexual or "i only like women but the actual vagina doesn't turn me on so i prefer softcore porn"sexual or "i'm asexual EXCEPT for hermaphrodites"sexual and blah blah blah.

basically what i am saying is can't you go without complete strangers knowing whether or not you are a purely sexual creature TRULY are free from gender or a mere lesser bi sexual who only likes both genders, the unenlightened creature? i don't think people really care so much

Anyway as for me I am Straight. Probably like an 8 on the Kinsey scale or whatever the average is (i.e. I like girls and I want to fuck girls but every once in a while a guy catches my eye and I think "hmmm i kind of like what i'm seeing OH NO BAD THOUGHTS BAD THOUGHTS BLOCK THEM OUT"). I don't really have any fetishes either so I am basically a True Honest American, my blood runs red white and blue
 
yeah okay but if we need the tiny subtle distinction between "i like attractive people regardless of gender"sexual and "i like both genders"sexual then we also need like 1000 other sexuality names like "i only like girls and dudes that look like girls but no other dudes"sexual or "i only like women but the actual vagina doesn't turn me on so i prefer softcore porn"sexual or "i'm asexual EXCEPT for hermaphrodites"sexual. basically what i am saying is can't you go without complete strangers knowing whether or not you are a purely sexual creature TRULY are free from gender or a mere lesser bi sexual who only likes both genders, the unenlightened creature? i don't think people really care so much
It's not subtle--it's really quite different. Bisexuality is attraction to either sex. Pansexuality is attraction to any gender. I hate the binary, but that doesn't change the terms from being "different enough" to warrant different terms.
 
I specifically denoted that bisexuality had to do with the male sex and the female sex and nothing to do with genders~ :X

I know what you're saying but some people inevitably want to know these things about you so
 
Huh! I voted bisexual on the poll, but I think that like many others here, I didn't really understand the distinction between bisexual/pansexual, and pan really fits me better. I'd probably still tell people I'm bi, though, because I think I'd do a pretty bad job explaining to people that gender is not, in fact, a binary thing and what the distinction is and all.

I can't properly say that I'm aromantic or asexual, because I definitely do have sexual/romantic attractions (even though it is a huge pain for me to distinguish them from platonic feelings...) but I'm quite irrationally averse to and afraid of sexuality and romance and whatnot, maybe almost like a little kid. It might just be a phase, but for now it's pretty irritating. I almost wish I were asexual, so I there wouldn't be such INTERNAL TURMOIL and conflict, but hey, what can you do.
 
If we're going by the Kinsey Scale, then I guess I'd better admit it to tCoD if nobody else. I'd say 5.

I guess that would explain the avatar, sig, username, personality etc. XP
 
Oh, we're being Kinseyish now? Probably 5.5 or 6. I feel I'd be able to be in an emotional relationship with a woman, but not... sexual.
 
I kind of hate the Kinsey scale, if only because it takes just physical sex into account.

A question for biromantic homosexuals: do you think you might/would have sex with a pre-op/non-op transgender?
 
A question for biromantic homosexuals: do you think you might/would have sex with a pre-op/non-op transgender?

That's a very interesting question. I'd never thought of that. Hmm, possibly... Although to be honest (and blunt) vaginas and such kind of, well, repulse me a little, so it would make things a little difficult. Ah, I don't know.
 
girls with penises are awesome.

I'll look up the Kinsey scale in a mo.

I'm thinking I'm a 2, maybe a 3?
 
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100% heterosexual.

Technically nobody's 100% of either extreme, but, um, yeah.

Anyway - I'm not really sure if I'd do that either, Vixie. I mean, in general, I'm just not a big fan of, uh, sex with women. Not that I have any experience, but you know what I mean.
 
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