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Old 12-01-2012, 10:20 AM
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Spanking is for parents who can't control their emotions and have no authority over their kids and thus resort to force to keep them in line. If you have to resort to spanking, you're doing something else wrong first in the parenting.
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Old 07-26-2013, 03:56 AM
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Okay, something happened today that completely changed my viewpoint on this, and I thought "I ought to put it in the thread."

So, we had a nice, two hour drive to my aunts house today. I was playing Animal Crossing, when my three year old brother bolts awake, instantly crying. This isn't a typical cry, though-- it sounded like he had been shot. It was a terrible cry. I actually shuddered. We couldn't calm him down-- his sobbing didn't deter even a little. My dad was honestly scared, and frantically asked, "Why are you crying?" My brother said something indecipherable and we let him cry it out for a bit. When at last he was done, we asked why he was crying. He had apparently wet himself in his sleep, and was crying because he didn't want to usual consequence that came with it. My baby brother had screamed bloody murder in fear of getting spanked.
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Old 04-16-2014, 12:24 PM
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In my personal opinion, physical discipline of any kind is an act of bullying. A parent who hits their children may think they are doing what is right and proper by attacking their children, but in actual fact, the message they are sending out is that is is all right to beat people up if they displease you. Spanking is about the powerful dominating the vulnerable through force and intimidation: rather than promoting dialogue and debate, it promotes fear and hatred.

I have never been spanked, and I am glad of it. My parents and I share a close, loving bond in which violence has no place. If I was regularly beaten, not only would I live in fear of my parents, I may have forcefully retaliated and made the situation much worse, or ended up as a juvenile delinquent. To that purpose, I believe anybody who spanks their children should either be spanked themselves by a much larger and stronger police officer in order to teach them a lesson, or simply sent to prison. Thank you for your attention.
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Old 06-19-2014, 03:42 PM
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I was spanked as a child, and while it didn't cause me any permanent scars, I still remember the fear that I had whenever I knew I had one coming. In my opinion, there are punishments such as time-outs or losing privileges that get the lesson to a child more effectively than corporal punishment.
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Old 07-01-2014, 08:14 PM
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Whilst I do not remember being spanked much at all, I very much remember being yelled at and that honestly screwed me up. Sometimes even for things when I was apparently too quiet so I ended up yelling since "quiet" was my regular speaking voice. I don't know if yelling and spanking can truly be compared, but both certainly are frightening and are forms of discipline and I still shut down mentally if someone yells at me and I'm dead afraid to speak out.

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