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Public displays of affection

I'm all for everything except public sex. Making out? Cool, just don't get too sexual with it. Kissing and hugging? That's so cute. My scholl has a rule against that actually...of course nobody listens to it.
 
I don't want to sound all whiney or attention-seeking or anything when I say this, but PDAs often make me feel a little sad. Because even though heterosexual couples who smooch and grope in public get told to "get a room!" and so on, it's still more or less socially acceptable, while same-sex couples who express affection in ways as small as holding hands or kissing cheeks risk anything from open ridicule to lecherous staring to having the living crap beaten out of them.

I was on a train with my sister and her boyfriend the other week and there was a male gay couple (aged about 15-17, I'd guess), who had their arms over each other's shoulders, and they weren't making a big deal at all but lots of the passengers were openly staring and whispering about them, while my sis and her bf attracted no attention whatsoever.

I stress that I'm not against PDAs (up to a point - I have to say watching people crotch-grab or whatever makes me a little uncomfortable), just a little saddened by the societal double-standard regarding them.
 
In Holland and even here in Belgium it's not that weird to see gays holding hands.
Then again we're the godless liberal utopias I guess?
 
I can see where you're coming from Dannichu, but restricting what couples can do in public wouldn't solve that problem.
 
I... know? That's exactly what I said in my last sentence. I'm not against PDAs (unless they're semi-pornographic) at all. Why did you think I was?
 
Dannichu said:
I... know? That's exactly what I said in my last sentence. I'm not against PDAs (unless they're semi-pornographic) at all. Why did you think I was?
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I didn't think you were, but if your main problem with (non-semi-pornographic) PDAs is that homosexuals can't freely do the same thing without being ridiculed then there's not really anything that can be done about that until society learns to accept it on its own. It's just that I was under the impression the debate was about whether or not there should be limits on what couples can do in public so I wasn't sure what you were getting at.
 
Vladimir Putin's LJ said:
In Holland and even here in Belgium it's not that weird to see gays holding hands.
Then again we're the godless liberal utopias I guess?
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counterexample! I went to an Amanda Palmer gig in Utrecht, and during one of the performances two members of the theatrical troupe accompanying her walked among the audience with signs saying "will kiss for money". they were both male, and when another guy had the audacity to accept, the looks they got were pretty horrified. It made me sad. :(

in reply to the topic, uh, knock yourselves out.
 
I share the same views of pretty much everybody else here. Holding hands, light kissing, hugs. It's really cute. The world needs more love.

However, when a couple starts choking on each others' tongues, its gone a bit too far. Anything beyond that is the same.

Our school has a rule against PDA (I think that holding hands is okay) and most of the kids respect that. We have pretty narrow hallways and surprisingly enough, most have realized that people need to get to class.
 
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Departure Song said:
I approve of public hugging, kissing, making out, and sex.

The world needs more love.
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This.

There were two gay boys I saw at my school the other week who were openly hugging and kissing each other and were left alone. I just stared at them because I find gay guys cute XD Luckily I was ninja about it but yeah.

Personally, I love PDA. Hell, I'd have sex openly in Madison Square Park if I wouldn't get arrested. But you know, that's just me. >>;;;
 
i used to kiss orianna in the hallway and everyone just had a big-ol fit it was sad.

like a little kiss inbetween classes. and i did that with josh, and nobody really cared.
 
The only issue I have aside from gay PDA being not socially acceptable is the fact that some people will just stand there for minutes making out. One time at was at Kings Dominian during Halloween and in one of the lines nearly every couple were making out like that. :(
 
superyoshi888 said:
The only issue I have aside from gay PDA being not socially acceptable is the fact that some people will just stand there for minutes making out. One time at was at Kings Dominian during Halloween and in one of the lines nearly every couple were making out like that. :(
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You know, that's not a requirement for a gay couple or anything. Some straight couples do that too? :/

I really like public displays of affection. :3 I only count simply affectionate things PDA though, not making out or anything that really doesn't need to be done in public. I just like seeing a couple looking at eachother and holding hands really, really adorable.

Only, though, when it seems they truly are in their own little world~ I hate it when a couple will exaggerate it to get attention or make others jealous, I expect this is something that usually only happens in schools though. XD
 
Cirrus said:
You know, that's not a requirement for a gay couple or anything. Some straight couples do that too? :/
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I wrote said:
The only issue I have aside from gay PDA being not socially acceptable is the fact that some people will just stand there for minutes making out.
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Did I once suggest that gay couples have to do that? I said I had problems with Gay PDA not being socially accepted. I also said I didn't like it when people just stand there making out for minutes lustfully.
 
Dannichu said:
I don't want to sound all whiney or attention-seeking or anything when I say this, but PDAs often make me feel a little sad. Because even though heterosexual couples who smooch and grope in public get told to "get a room!" and so on, it's still more or less socially acceptable, while same-sex couples who express affection in ways as small as holding hands or kissing cheeks risk anything from open ridicule to lecherous staring to having the living crap beaten out of them.
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Lesbians make out all over the place at my school and nobody cares or watches them.
But guy gay couples have to try to keep it a secret from everyone because they'll get berated and insulted otherwise. :(

My opinion on the topic is really "do whatever you want", just it's a little awkward usually because I feel inclined to watch.
 
why in the world would you call 911 because someone was having sex openly in the middle of a park

that's more like... tell the parks department or something
 
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