Is it weird for a girl to propose to a guy?

I didn't even know that it was weird for a girl to propose until last year until I saw The One Show talk about how some day is apparently the only day where it's allowed. (I recall it being the 29th of Feburary but last year wasn't a leap year?)

I don't really understand the reasoning behind any of that, it's just stupid.

Rainbow Dash said:

Wait. Waiiiiit. (This post popped up while I was posting my last post. ... I post slowly.)

You don't care but you suppose it would have to be the non-female or less feminine one for it to feel right for you after all?

EDIT: Ohhh, wait, I guess that's consistent if you meant you don't care when it comes to other people, but that's still kind of obnoxious. :c

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I suppose it would just be more of a stereotypical thing if I were to be in a relationship with a girl. If she got down on one knee with a ring, my family would definitely be raising some eyebrows. If I got down on one knee in the same manner, my family would be overjoyed, and so would hers, if she said yes. It's just how the media's hyped things up, I suppose.

As for a guy, which you appear to be referring to, I think it all comes down to a matter of who's willing to take the initiative, lest we simultaneously kneel and pull out a ring. Which, of course, would kind of look odd, but I suppose that's where my answer comes from: "I don't care....as long as one of us says yes."

Eh, I think proposals are just really creepy and stupid in general. It's not right to have to make such a life-changing decision under all that pressure, because it becomes really hard to say no.

What everybody else had said, really.

Starlit Ocean said:

lest we simultaneously kneel and pull out a ring.

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All proposals should be done this way.

It's not weird, but I think in my current relationship marriage is a while away anyway.

Is it sad or amazing that cookie is in third place?

Bachuru said:

There should be prior agreement that the two of you do want to get married, but the "proposal" can just be some cute, overly-romantic gesture one partner makes for the particular occasion of when you put on engagement rings - though the tradition springs from something pretty skeevy, that doesn't mean the tradition can't be put in a modern form that's actually just fun.

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Okay, yeah, I see no problem with it given that context. That can perfectly well be cute.

Rasrap Smurf said:

I didn't even know that it was weird for a girl to propose until last year until I saw The One Show talk about how some day is apparently the only day where it's allowed. (I recall it being the 29th of Feburary but last year wasn't a leap year?)

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Yeah, I've heard of that too; I definitely remember the day being leap day. I assume three out of four years it supposedly just doesn't happen.

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Starlit Ocean said:

I suppose it would just be more of a stereotypical thing if I were to be in a relationship with a girl. If she got down on one knee with a ring, my family would definitely be raising some eyebrows. If I got down on one knee in the same manner, my family would be overjoyed, and so would hers, if she said yes. It's just how the media's hyped things up, I suppose.

As for a guy, which you appear to be referring to, I think it all comes down to a matter of who's willing to take the initiative, lest we simultaneously kneel and pull out a ring. Which, of course, would kind of look odd, but I suppose that's where my answer comes from: "I don't care....as long as one of us says yes."

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Oh, I read "I'd be the one to propose to her" as a statement of how you'd want things to be, not "this is just how it'd pan out given where I live." Though you still said you'd want the "more feminine" guy (if you end up getting engaged to a guy) on the receiving end of the proposal; is taking the initiative inherently masculine?

Crazy Linoone said:

Eh, I think proposals are just really creepy and stupid in general. It's not right to have to make such a life-changing decision under all that pressure, because it becomes really hard to say no.

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True. Especially if the person being asked just doesn't want to get married for whatever reason... it will just be awkward telling no.

All proposals are weird >:| /amoeba

I suppose that in situations like Butterchuru's, where there's been enough discussion and the proposal would be more like a ceremony to officialise it, it'd be fine; in that case, the girl doing it is no weirder. Otherwise, I'm forced to quote Dannichu's post and say, "This."

Karkat Vantas said:

Why does this even make a difference

I'm against marriage to begin with.

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^ yeah.
i'm all for just living with someone. i dont know if i want to be called someone's "wife" for how ever long I'm with someone. to answer the question, no. i don't think it's weird. i would want someone to propose to me, but thats just me.

Personally, I would have no problems with proposing to a man if I actually found the right one for me (I don't really have any intentions of ever getting married or getting into a relationship but that's a little off-topic) But I would think up something creative besides the get-down-on-one-knee-with-a-ring-in-a-jewelery-box-and-stuff method. But for other women, I wouldn't know because I'm only one person.

If what you really meant was "Does today's society think it to be unorthodox for the woman to approach the man and propose instead of the other way around?" then I still wouldn't know because I don't really get out that much. This is a social question that can change anytime the opinions of the society change. So if that was what was inferred by your question, you're probably out of luck. Different chicks dig different flicks.

I don't particularly care if women are proposing to men. If that's what they want to do then hooray let's support their choice to get married? IDEK why this is a thing. :(

Personally I'd rather be the one to propose, although I think if my future boyfriend proposed to me I'd find it really sweet. More than likely I'll just be all "oh btw we've been living together for a while now and I think you're great and stuff so let's get married" but.

You know.

Wooo women etc.

They may be considered weird but "nobody can propose to me. autoreject" is stupid.

No; "traditional" gender roles should not be encouraged.