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Old 11-12-2010, 05:34 PM
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and I came out recently.

It was on my mind for a while prior and at first it was weird to think of myself in that way. I don't think I was at any point worried about what other people would think because my parents constantly said they'd love me and I hoped that my friends would be supportive enough not to be bothered by it. So, I've come to terms with it and I've already told a few people.

But do you know what?

I don't feel any different. If anything, I feel more confident in myself now that I've actually done so, which surprises me. c:

The only issue I have is how to tell my parents. As I said before, I doubt they'd think badly of me but it's just . . . awkward, I suppose, to fit into regular conversation or to talk about. Any tips?
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Old 11-12-2010, 06:10 PM
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Bi males ftw :3

Yeah, I came out to my parents, and it didn't work out too well (they're religious). They're in a state of denial pretty much. But I came out to my two cousins and best friend, and they are all very supportive. It depends on the person, I guess.

If you think your parents will be supportive, go for it :D As for how to do it, I guess just sit them down and say something like, "Hey guys, I'm going to be totally honest with you. I'm bisexual, and I have been ever since I can remember"--or something like that.
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Old 11-12-2010, 06:10 PM
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Nice one. (: Good that you know yourself a bit better.

As for telling your parents, could you not just take one/both aside and say that there's something you need to talk to them about? It seems like it'd be awkward to say, but if you let them know that this is important to you, they'll surely understand any nervousness.
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Old 11-12-2010, 06:45 PM
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Congratulations again!

I came out as a bisexual to my father by asking "Hey, do you know what day October the 11th is?" and telling him to check it out on wikipedia or something. He never did, but I told him later that it was the National Coming Out day (It's 12. October in the UK, I think) and then revealed my orientation. It was fine, and he told my mother, with my permission of course. Obligatory talk consisting of "We'll always love you no matter what" and such ensued.

It was actually quite liberating, and I feel more open with both myself and my friends and family now. It's a good feeling. :)

How you come out is up to you, though. There are many ways.

(wow, this forum is swarming with queers)
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Old 11-12-2010, 07:57 PM
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This forum is basically queer central, apart from me, Butterfree, and a few others... (Tailsy I think...I am not sure about opal or surskitty)
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Old 11-12-2010, 09:25 PM
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Old 11-12-2010, 09:30 PM
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This forum is basically queer central, apart from me, Butterfree, and a few others... (Tailsy I think...I am not sure about opal or surskitty)
If asexual doesn't count, then me, too.
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U know it

Joking aside, I'm really glad for you. That's always the first step; coming out to yourself. But parents, they don't have to know. Take mine for example. They have absolutely no idea and probably never will. And our lives are perfectly alright that way.

Come out to as many friends as you like though. You'll never regret it.
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Old 11-12-2010, 10:19 PM
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It's common knowledge that this place is secretly a socialist brainwashing camp run by a bunch of crazy LGBT guys.
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Old 11-12-2010, 10:43 PM
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This forum is basically queer central, apart from me, Butterfree, and a few others... (Tailsy I think...I am not sure about opal or surskitty)
We should make a Straight, White, Middle-Class Men's Club, obv.
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Old 11-12-2010, 10:46 PM
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It wouldn't have any members :'(
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Old 11-12-2010, 11:44 PM
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It's common knowledge that this place is secretly a socialist brainwashing camp run by a bunch of crazy LGBT guys.
hush! they're onto us.

anyway! congratulations! I came out to my mum by casually mentioning that some of my friends were bisexual and I was too and she didn't really care, but my mum is cool so. if you make it awkward it'll be awkward - if you don't make a huge deal out of it you'll probably escape without too much awkwardness. c:
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Old 11-14-2010, 06:06 PM
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I'm so proud of you Kai! Anyway, I know your parents will still love you. I agree with ultraviolet - If you make it awkward, it will be awkward. Just be brave and strong and tell them, I'm sure they'll understand. We're all here supporting you, Kai! <3 I'm really happy that all your friends understood and were really cool with it. C:
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Old 11-14-2010, 06:18 PM
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I think we bi males of TCoD should all have a party.


But congrats on coming out! I've come out to quite a few friends at this point and so far all of them have been pretty cool about it. But I'm never planning on coming out to my parents.

Props to you for going for it!
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Old 11-16-2010, 10:24 AM
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This forum is basically queer central, apart from me, Butterfree, and a few others... (Tailsy I think...I am not sure about opal or surskitty)
well, me too.

Anyways, congratulations^^ I'm really happy for you. I'd suggest you just tell them "oh hi, I have something I have to talk to you about" Hopefully they'll be supportive, and since you say you doubt they'll think badly about you I'd say go for it :D
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I think we bi males of TCoD should all have a party.
If you guys provide the vodka, I'll DJ it free of charge.
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