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Of course I'm not forcing you to do anything if you don't want to, but seriously, what have you got to lose? Five seconds of your life?
What purpose is served by having people legally tied together and then having immature sex? There is pretty much nowhere where you can't get married at about 15 or 16, anyway. Despite this, though, having sex to be cool is stupid in the same vein as smoking to be cool or listening to crappy music to be cool, yes.
So I was glad we agreed on that first one. Then you said the second thing that is pretty contradictory. Which is it you cannot have it both ways. It is totally possible that marriage does not solve all the problems for most people. You don't need to append an apology to a statement acknowledging this. Say what you mean.
That is kinda too bad. Marriage is a legal thing, even if it is covered in spiritual bows and ribbons. If you mean to discuss something else, you should say something else. People will assume you mean marriage when you say marriage.
"I heard this in the news so it doesn't need to be right or coherent"?
okay so let's make it so people get married at the most difficult point in a teenager's life, yeah. many people don't even know what sexuality they are until way into their late teens or later, many people don't even know how to handle the idea of sex and relationships and most people who are going through crazy hormones aren't really mature enough to handle a full-scale relationship, let alone one that will last for the rest of your life. why on earth would you ask kids who have just left childhood to decide on a life partner? they aren't even a quarter the way through the average life span and pretty obviously lack the life experience to make such a huge decision. :/ and honestly if this is the time to experiment with what your hormones are telling you, why would you ask a thirteen-year-old to go and get married while this is happening? isn't that kind of counter-productive? 'yeah go and experiment with your sexuality... but uh, don't cheat on your husband/wife or do anything that would upset them.'
yes but why do you think this? 'because they told me' isn't a valid reason for anyone to believe anything; you should have your own reasons why you believe something. you say that you were brainwashed; this sounds like you don't really accept this or you don't entirely agree. it's in the church's best interests for you to believe what they say, not yours.
uh yeah so how would this work exactly? considering that many STDs don't actually present themselves with symptoms for ages or until well after they've stopped being contagious? why couldn't people just use protection? in developed countries it works pretty well, and I think it's a great invasion of privacy to have to fill out contracts detailing what kind of sex you have (which would be inevitable if you were to keep track of STDs). despite the massive amount of education about STDs there are still plenty of adults who don't know how to recognise or prevent the spreading of STDs so I think that's really an area to work on rather than a contract that would be both hard to implement and probably ineffective anyway.
NO you are generalizing massively! when your hormones 'go insane' it does not mean you should or are ready to have sex. at all. puberty is the stage where you gain sexual desires and the tools to use them, yes, but sexual desire and wanting to have sex are entirely different, and who you have sex with is an entirely stupid way to decide who you want to marry.
