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Sexuality
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goldenquagsire
Rubber dinghy rapids, bro!
my parents met in their 30s (both had no previous marriages although obviously they did have exes) and didn't get married for another ~16 years, at least 15 years after I was born. and even then they claimed that it was totally for tax reasons and that it didn't compromise their socialist ethics at all. :P
Harlequin
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In more traditional, rural areas it would have been extremely common for schoolyard relationships to blossom into marriages, especially half a century ago. Now, though, that's simply not true: people are going to university and "playing the field" a lot more than before, and there's no expectation to settle down and get married young like there was before.
Lord Mewtwo
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Hetero, I love the male form; although I have yet to experience a relationship, guys have hardly noticed me especially in that way. I suppose it unattractive perhaps that I can not stand to dress/ look like a girl. I prefer t-shirts and jeans to dresses/skirts/makeup and girly shit.
If I may have a dumbass moment though, what is pansexual? It is the only selection up there I do not know the definition of.
If I may have a dumbass moment though, what is pansexual? It is the only selection up there I do not know the definition of.
Gender is not of concern when it comes to what you like. Boys, girls, anything in between.
Lord Mewtwo
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Ok I understand, thanks for explaining.
Dark Shocktail
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My parents met at their workplace. My dad was my mum's boss and she was married at the time. They got together when her marriage began to break apart (Dad had nothing to do with it). He had to ask several times before she said yes though.
He also had to ask a couple of times before Mum agreed to marry him, and even then it was mostly because Dad didn't want kids out of wedlock (he basically said he wouldn't have any until they were married :x). So they got hitched and a year or two later, my big bro was born and etc etc.
So yeah. My dad had a fiancée before that who changed her mind and my mum had an ex-husband. But they learned from their previous relationships and it helped in their marriage so I am told.
He also had to ask a couple of times before Mum agreed to marry him, and even then it was mostly because Dad didn't want kids out of wedlock (he basically said he wouldn't have any until they were married :x). So they got hitched and a year or two later, my big bro was born and etc etc.
So yeah. My dad had a fiancée before that who changed her mind and my mum had an ex-husband. But they learned from their previous relationships and it helped in their marriage so I am told.
Lord Mewtwo
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Yeah I think I see that; pensexual can also include animals or hermaphrodites I assumed.
Well and if we are telling parent stories in this thread as well; my mom was encouraged to meet my dad by some friends I think is what she said. He worked at the time at Stanford Hospital as a radio biologist(the best job he ever had from which he was laid off). He was 39 to her 19; they married in my maternal grandmother's backyard maybe a year later. She was 24 and he 44 when I was finally born on their fifth attempt.
They divorced when I was 3.
That is all I know; this is my mom's story. My dad likely would have had a different one had I ever asked him. They always had two different stories XP
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er no I don't think being pansexual crosses species as well as gender; I think you're referring to bestiality.
EDIT: okay to clarify-
I'm bisexual - this means that I'm attracted to two genders (hence the bi in bisexual); it suggests a gender binary. I'm attracted to men and women only. Someone who's pansexual can be attracted to anyone within the gender spectrum: male, female, neither, both, third gender, and so on.
Speaking of which, I'm still not entirely sure why I'm attracted to men and women but not so much hermaphrodites etc. I mean. I'm attracted to feminine men and masculine females, too, but for some reason nothing in between ?_? Furthermore, I've had crushes/been sexually attracted to women I know, but I've never been in a relationship with one. I'm happy enough for this not to be a worry, but idk. I'd like a relationship with a woman to see how different it'd be. :I
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Jolty
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(isn't intersex the proper name for hermaphrodites???)
when asked, I just tell people I'm bisexual since it needs no explanation
I'm more pansexual though, I've been in a relationship with a genderqueer person (if that's even accurate?) and I wouldn't ever have a problem with being with someone who is anything else
...I should probably say I'm pansexual when asked though, y'know, educating people and whatnot :B
when asked, I just tell people I'm bisexual since it needs no explanation
I'm more pansexual though, I've been in a relationship with a genderqueer person (if that's even accurate?) and I wouldn't ever have a problem with being with someone who is anything else
...I should probably say I'm pansexual when asked though, y'know, educating people and whatnot :B
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goldenquagsire
Rubber dinghy rapids, bro!
I thought the distinction was mostly philosophical special snowflakery. Although the issue of transgeder etc. complicates matters, I'd have thought that most bisexuals wouldn't see it as a problem.
I personally wouldn't have a problem with dating or sexing a non-traditionally gendered person, but I prefer the term 'bisexual' because it invites fewer responses of "eh what?"
Harlequin
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Well, pansexual will have a point when/if we ever find another sapient speices! It's just sort of pointless now.
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I don't see how pansexual would be relevant there... it's attraction to all possibilities of sex and gender, not towards all sapient species (even though we only know of the one right now). o-o
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...to be honest, I haven't really thought about it! I'm sure another term would be created that's not already in use if we ever came in contact with a sapient race and inter-species attraction occurred.
perhaps "xenophilia" or something similar.