• Welcome to The Cave of Dragonflies forums, where the smallest bugs live alongside the strongest dragons.

    Guests are not able to post messages or even read certain areas of the forums. Now, that's boring, don't you think? Registration, on the other hand, is simple, completely free of charge, and does not require you to give out any personal information at all. As soon as you register, you can take part in some of the happy fun things at the forums such as posting messages, voting in polls, sending private messages to people and being told that this is where we drink tea and eat cod.

    Of course I'm not forcing you to do anything if you don't want to, but seriously, what have you got to lose? Five seconds of your life?

Sexuality

Sexuality?

  • I am heterosexual.

    Votes: 99 44.8%

  • I am homosexual.

    Votes: 21 9.5%

  • I am bisexual.

    Votes: 42 19.0%

  • I am pansexual.

    Votes: 11 5.0%

  • I am asexual.

    Votes: 15 6.8%

  • I don't know.

    Votes: 33 14.9%
  • Total voters
    221
actually, non-heterosexuals on the forum (who voted, of course) are 55.1%, counting those in the I don't Know category.
 
Vixie said:
Ryubane suggested that bisexual implies there is a gender binary. I explained why this is not the case. I have no idea what Dinru was actually trying to say there. Bisexual just means you like cisgendered males and females. It doesn't mean there is a binary.
Click to expand...

It sounded, to me, like you were trying to imply that that wasn't the case.

Note to self: if lurking forums on less than 4 hours sleep, don't post.

Cirrus said:
YMMV is a really well-known acronym by the way. o.o
Click to expand...

It actually isn't very well known at all in the US.
 
your mileage may vary

i learned that like last month

but what's hrml mean. res keeps using it and it confuses me
 
I counted them as part of the not-straight group because occasionally I'll hear LGBT referred to as LGBT plus questioning, soooooo

I, for one, voted in the idk section, but I've realized my not-straightness.

(though I'm a weird case because I'm attracted to both boys and girls, but so far I've shown much more attraction to males.)
 
I voted 'I don't know'. Because I don't know =/ I haven't been in a relationship yet , I haven't been measured on any sort of gay scale, I sometimes look at girls on the street and think "Wow, she's really pretty/cute..." But I mostly fantasize about males.

Weirder yet...I don't think I care that I'm a girl. I roll with it since it's what I've got, but I largely feel indifferent towards being a girl. I can easily pass for a boy by putting on baggy clothes and I have done before, even without meaning to. I wouldn't say I was transsexual because my sex isn't causing me any trauma, but I wouldn't say it's a normal standpoint either.

So...I guess I'm just going with the flow right now.
 
Flora and Ashes said:
I, for one, voted in the idk section, but I've realized my not-straightness.
Click to expand...

So. Out of curiosity, how many have voted, but would change/have changed their votes since then?

I voted idk too, and similarily I'd have to change it to 'homosexual' today. ... That sounds weird to say, haha. I only really started thinking about it seriously a few weeks ago. I had some reticence, mainly because I've always heard from gay people that they knew they were gay since they were ten or earlier or whatever, and I just went from "I have no desire for any sort of romantic partner of any kind" to "I guess it'd be cool to date someone" to "I guess it'd be cool to date... anyone" to "goddamn penises are gross ... and boys are generally unattractive. but girls are generally attractive. huh. well all right then." gradually over the last few years. But today I feel most 'right' considering myself as a biromantic homosexual. (Actually, funnily enough, it's sort of a mix of what Zeta said jokingly a few pages back - "I only like girls and dudes that look like girls but no other dudes"romantic and "I only like women but the actual vagina doesn't turn me on so I prefer softcore porn"sexual. [Except for the actual porn bit. Nyuergh.] Also, cisfem birom homosex should include nonop ftm, right? I mean, male gender, female sex... I include it, anyway.)

Okay, I feel good having said that. :3 I mean, I wouldn't tell anyone unless specifically asked, but... yeah. Eheh, this maybe should have gone in the LGBT thread. Oh, whatever.

Other question: how do non-completely-straight people find same-sex dates/partners to begin with? :s It seems like... for girls, at least, you can have a lot of girl friends, but I have no idea how one would go about getting a girlfriend. Realizing not only that both of you like each other, but that you ~like~ like each other, especially if neither of you is very open about it. Hnn.

(Of course, I'm not a hundred percent sure how girlfriend/boyfriend couples start. I was never very... successful on that sort of front. But uh so yeah whatever.)
 
MidnightSaboteur said:
Other question: how do non-completely-straight people find same-sex dates/partners to begin with? :s It seems like... for girls, at least, you can have a lot of girl friends, but I have no idea how one would go about getting a girlfriend. Realizing not only that both of you like each other, but that you ~like~ like each other, especially if neither of you is very open about it. Hnn.

(Of course, I'm not a hundred percent sure how girlfriend/boyfriend couples start. I was never very... successful on that sort of front. But uh so yeah whatever.)
Click to expand...

I have no idea either. A friend of mine had a buddy with whom she'd share milkshakes with (two straws, one glass style) and had actually kissed before. They were so close people thought they were dating, but they weren't since my friend is straight. It's really hard to draw the line - I'd always thought of this friend as a sister, so I wouldn't shy away from kissing her cheek or just giving her a peck on the lips.

Boundaries are funny things. I still don't know how to draw the line with some of the friends I have now who are very affectionate/body free (you know who you are)! But I guess it doesn't really matter. I'm a straight talking girl. If I like a person I ask if they want to go out with me. They say yes (not happened yet), awesome, fancy seeing a movie on Friday? They say no, that's fine, no point in pursuing someone who isn't interested.
 
Or just from, y'know, both sides of the couple knowing that the other is LGB? And from thereon it works like any other sort of getting-together?
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top Bottom