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Sexual Orientation

Hmmmmm!?

  • Homosexual/gay

    Votes: 15 10.9%

  • Heterosexual/straight

    Votes: 71 51.4%

  • Bisexual/Pansexual

    Votes: 25 18.1%

  • Other (please state)

    Votes: 11 8.0%

  • Asexual

    Votes: 16 11.6%
  • Total voters
    138
Zhorken the Ocelot;32684though yes applying yourself to [b said:
arbitrarily divided categories[/b] is pretty silly imo
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How is it arbitrarily divided? It's simple enough, there are two sexes, you can like one or the other, or both, or neither. Nothing arbitrary about it to me.

Also the people who are all "I don't like porn so your point is moot", you know that's not what I was getting at. You could replace it with uh, I don't know, imagine yourself having sex with a guy, imagine yourself having sex with a girl, figure out which ones if any seem pleasant, there you go, you now know your sexual orientation. :|
 
Zhorken the Ocelot said:
1. Nobody strictly likes exactly any number of sexes to exact extents.
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Well, it's kind of like colors, isn't it? There are many shades of red, but you still say "oh, that's red" and then if you want to go into more detail you can go "it's a dark magenta-y red" but it's easier to just say "oh, her dress is red".

2. What about pre-op and post-op transsexuals? What about herms? What about nullo people? What about..., ..., ....
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Those aren't sexes.

3. Why do you need to sort things into categories at all? Why not say "I generally like [boys, girls, boys and girls, boys and girls but boys a bit more...]" instead of categorizing this attraction?
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Because it's easier to sum it up in one word? If you like boys and girls but boys a bit more then you're bisexual, and if someone cares you can tell them "I have a slight preference for guys".
 
The point is, of course not all bisexuals will like guys and girls an equal amount. Not all science fiction books will have equal elements of science in them. Not all shades of blue will have the same amount of green in them. Not all jazz songs will be structured the same. You still need to have general words, to give people an idea of what you are, until they ask for details.
 
Who cares if there are four unnecessary words in the english language? You don't have to use them.
 
because it's expected that people try to fit things such as this into categories when it does not categorize cleanly
 
Some people use terms like "androsexual" and "gynosexual", which really just mean "attracted to boys" and "attracted to girls" respectively. (Although I've read in some places that those mean you're only attracted to specific age groups within those sexes... hmm.) I agree that it shouldn't matter what you are, though. :(
 
Not all science fiction books will have equal elements of science in them.
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science fiction is not about science >:(

anyway

the problem is that human attraction does not run precisely along lines set down by sex, gender, whatever. by indicating that it does, you are grossly simplifying matters; why cannot we just say "I like who I like"? why do we have to conform to strict categories? why does everyone have to be x, y, or z? why can't they be all three, none, or various parts of each?

the point I am trying to make: categorising attraction is fucking stupid.
 
surskitty said:
because it's expected that people try to fit things such as this into categories when it does not categorize cleanly
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Nothing categorizes cleanly.

Zhorken the Ocelot said:
This isn't about using words! This is about categorizing! By labelling people [whatever]sexual you're sorting them into categories and I think that's dumb.
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That's what I thought at first, but you seemed to turn the debate into against the words, and that instead of heretosexual we should say "likes boys" or "likes girls".

Really, it's not worth getting upset over the fact that people expect you to call yourself one of four things. Either you can go "well, I like girls AND boys, but I like girls in a more romantic way and boys in a more sexual way, and I think I like boys a bit more" or you can go "I'm bi," and if they want details, they'll ask.
 
Because sexuality doesn't categorize that neatly and it's foolish to try to do so.
 
Zeta Reticuli said:
Also the people who are all "I don't like porn so your point is moot", you know that's not what I was getting at. You could replace it with uh, I don't know, imagine yourself having sex with a guy, imagine yourself having sex with a girl, figure out which ones if any seem pleasant, there you go, you now know your sexual orientation. :|
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And if imagining myself having sex with girl/guy STILL does not turn me on? In fact, thinking about sex in any way, shape, or form does not turn me on at all. And how am I supposed to figure that out from just imagining it? When I imagine myself having sex, I don't feel anything, at all. I don't think: "Ooh, I like having sex better with a guy/girl than a girl/guy."

Sorry, it's still not that simple. Some people (like me) just don't know. And that's the way things are. Maybe later, when I actually have (as opposed to watching/imagining it) sex/fall in love with someone, I will. But for now, I just don't know.
 
I'm quite straight.

My stance on homosexual stuff, is just that I don't think that people were meant to be homosexual, but it's their own buisness, and I don't care... As long as they don't mess with me, I don't care. it's not that I'm a homophobe, but I just think homosexuals are... eh... different(?), for lack of a better word...
 
Fer-Snazzle said:
But sexuality is mental on your part, and physical on your partner's part. Also, most people aren't intersexual, or wtv you call it. They exhist "outside of the box", and can't really be considered different sexes. After all, they are made up of both male and female...
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Do your research.

They aren't considered different sexes, but certainly they make a difference. And what about those of us who are genderqueer/androgynous/etc?

Not to mention the who-knows-how-many cultures with third gender individuals.


HERE'S TO GENDER BEING ONE OF TWO CHOICES.



That's all I got, guys.
 
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