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hi! why. I met my person over the internet and he turned out to be pretty cool in-person, too!
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hi! why. I met my person over the internet and he turned out to be pretty cool in-person, too!
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Phantom
Uh, I didn't do it.
Ditto.
Actually now that I think about it, save for a few most of the people I've dated I've met off the internet somehow.
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To be fair, "befriending somebody on a Pokémon forum and then getting together" isn't exactly what most people think of when they're asked about what they think of internet dating. MonsterMMORPG most likely understood the topic to be referring to the "start a profile on a dating website" kind of internet dating.
I guess I might as well answer the survey generally.
Should kids have cellphones?
Eh, I didn't have a cellphone as a kid and thought it was kind of stupid for kids my age to be having them at the time, but they really are very convenient - ultimately what cellphones do is make people much more available for contact, which is actually even more important for kids than adults in a way because if kids get lost or something, being able to call their parents is extremely useful. I don't think every kid needs to have a cellphone, but there's a good rationale for giving your kid a cellphone if you have money to spare.
Is stuff like Facebook okay?
I personally hate Facebook and everything to do with it, and some of the things Facebook does are definitely not okay, but assuming you mean the social networking part itself, I don't really see a problem with it in principle - it's just people expressing themselves and other people who like to follow what those people are doing seeing it, which is generally a positive thing. If you don't like it, don't participate in it.
What does technology do to real life discussion?
I think it expands the range of communication people have massively. Without modern technology, people mostly only interacted with people they were physically meeting. The Internet allows people to communicate casually without being in the same vicinity - contact with faraway friends can be much more steady, and you can generally interact with more people in your life. There's a lot more ability to discover like-minded people, too, which leads to somewhat different kinds of friendships than before.
What do you think about internet dating?
I'm pretty skeptical of dating websites, personally - coming to like people through actually knowing them seems a better precursor to romance than browsing around for a profile that sounds good and sending a message - but if people find they can really connect to people that way, more power to them. As for when the actually knowing them part merely happens through the Internet, I don't see how that's significantly worse than "real-life" dating - people can hide things about themselves in real life too, and while people can be awkward in real life even after knowing each other online, I'm generally inclined to think in most cases that's a shyness that can wear off if they give it a chance.
I guess I might as well answer the survey generally.
Should kids have cellphones?
Eh, I didn't have a cellphone as a kid and thought it was kind of stupid for kids my age to be having them at the time, but they really are very convenient - ultimately what cellphones do is make people much more available for contact, which is actually even more important for kids than adults in a way because if kids get lost or something, being able to call their parents is extremely useful. I don't think every kid needs to have a cellphone, but there's a good rationale for giving your kid a cellphone if you have money to spare.
Is stuff like Facebook okay?
I personally hate Facebook and everything to do with it, and some of the things Facebook does are definitely not okay, but assuming you mean the social networking part itself, I don't really see a problem with it in principle - it's just people expressing themselves and other people who like to follow what those people are doing seeing it, which is generally a positive thing. If you don't like it, don't participate in it.
What does technology do to real life discussion?
I think it expands the range of communication people have massively. Without modern technology, people mostly only interacted with people they were physically meeting. The Internet allows people to communicate casually without being in the same vicinity - contact with faraway friends can be much more steady, and you can generally interact with more people in your life. There's a lot more ability to discover like-minded people, too, which leads to somewhat different kinds of friendships than before.
What do you think about internet dating?
I'm pretty skeptical of dating websites, personally - coming to like people through actually knowing them seems a better precursor to romance than browsing around for a profile that sounds good and sending a message - but if people find they can really connect to people that way, more power to them. As for when the actually knowing them part merely happens through the Internet, I don't see how that's significantly worse than "real-life" dating - people can hide things about themselves in real life too, and while people can be awkward in real life even after knowing each other online, I'm generally inclined to think in most cases that's a shyness that can wear off if they give it a chance.
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don't rain on our parade >:/
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Uh, I didn't do it.
Isn't it technically though?
I've meet the last two people I've dated on craigslist of all places, and one on a dating site. I know people that have met on XBOX LIVE and are happily married.
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I think so, too! But I kind of want to hear some arguments against dating websites that aren't generally arguments against IRL dating ads, blind dates, even going to singles bars. There's also nothing particularly unique or modern about dating sites, whereas making friends over the internet and then dating them is something that makes way more sense to deem related to technology.
aw dude i love this topic almost as much as clarence thomas dislikes yale so here we go:
in my understanding it's basically it's that the pros are known but the cons aren't
it's known that cell phpnes let kids communicate with their parents and keep up with their bff jill or instagram about the Unreal Air they just got, but it's unknown if being immersed in that kind of abstracted communication from a young age has any kind of noteworthy or bad developmental effects.
facebook has problems, and a lot of it boils down to selective terms of service enforcement (lots of porn pages are given the implicit go-ahead but they crack down VERY hard on information about breastfeeding, for example), and there's their business strategy of trying to become the centerpiece/psuedo-openid of the laybrowser's internet experience.
internet dating is cool because you get immediate answers to disqualificatory questions like okcupid's legendary "do you think there are circimstances where someone is obligated to have sex with you" but not so cool because it's basically a sea of people sending and ignoring canned en-masse responses.
in my understanding it's basically it's that the pros are known but the cons aren't
it's known that cell phpnes let kids communicate with their parents and keep up with their bff jill or instagram about the Unreal Air they just got, but it's unknown if being immersed in that kind of abstracted communication from a young age has any kind of noteworthy or bad developmental effects.
facebook has problems, and a lot of it boils down to selective terms of service enforcement (lots of porn pages are given the implicit go-ahead but they crack down VERY hard on information about breastfeeding, for example), and there's their business strategy of trying to become the centerpiece/psuedo-openid of the laybrowser's internet experience.
internet dating is cool because you get immediate answers to disqualificatory questions like okcupid's legendary "do you think there are circimstances where someone is obligated to have sex with you" but not so cool because it's basically a sea of people sending and ignoring canned en-masse responses.
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I never seriously posted in here.
I don't have a cellphone and don't think I will for a long time; I also don't care. ;) It defiinitely has its merits; oh, shit, my track meet stopped an hour early! I don't have contact. Damn it, my swimming practice is going two hours overtime.
In that way, then yeah, by all means, cellphones are beneficial. But then what's up with six year old kids texting nonstop on their iPhone 5? Hell, what's the point of a kid even having an iPhone 5? I see all technology and hardware as being another avenue to peer pressure and being 'hip'. (I tend to dislike all things like that, don't mind me.)
I have cousins who have friends who repeatedly lose their iPhone 4/5 and then lo and behold, a month later, you got it! Another one. What's the point? They don't need to be on their phones all the time. In American culture, at least, it seems like another way to try to act older than your age by being cool and texting all the time, and that shouldn't be condoned at all. B URSELF DUDE
Social networking is fine! As long as you don't do anything stupid, which sadly, lots of kids do. Facebook is a great way to keep in touch with your friends when, say, you move across the world. But meeting someone new and then two seconds later you arrange to meet somewhere is really shady! o.o I'm not that paranoid about that stuff happening, but yeah.
Also, the age limit is thirteen. Thirteen seems like a fairly okay age, but hi, seven year old kids get on there and then friend shady people. And like Phantom said, haha, those kids say some darned terrible things.
Again, technology is a great way to talk to people when you honestly can't meet in person. But I think it's better face to face contact is better by far!
Technology helps me and my homeschooled/cyberschooled friends in that respect, yes. But I also have one of my friends who recently got into this girl and now can't hold a conversation with anyone because he's busy texting her. I've seen that sort of absorbption happen to way too many people >|
I know that it's worked for people here, but stuff like Zoosk or whatnot is all kinda... iffy. I also think that you can't go "omg! that person is my MATCH!!!" Chemistry works much better in real life most of the time, and I feel like those dating sites are all schemes to make money >| Also they're ways for people to pretend like they're dating but they're being lazy. I've heard older people go "I'm on eHarmony! I'm dating a super cool guy. It's much better this way because I don't have to work hard to go see him or anything like that, we just chat online." If you don't care enough to go meet the dude/girl/whatever else, it probably isn't worth it.
Also, I don't think that people under, say, 15 should be dating online! Too many ways to get hurt that way. >/
I never seriously posted in here.
I don't have a cellphone and don't think I will for a long time; I also don't care. ;) It defiinitely has its merits; oh, shit, my track meet stopped an hour early! I don't have contact. Damn it, my swimming practice is going two hours overtime.
In that way, then yeah, by all means, cellphones are beneficial. But then what's up with six year old kids texting nonstop on their iPhone 5? Hell, what's the point of a kid even having an iPhone 5? I see all technology and hardware as being another avenue to peer pressure and being 'hip'. (I tend to dislike all things like that, don't mind me.)
I have cousins who have friends who repeatedly lose their iPhone 4/5 and then lo and behold, a month later, you got it! Another one. What's the point? They don't need to be on their phones all the time. In American culture, at least, it seems like another way to try to act older than your age by being cool and texting all the time, and that shouldn't be condoned at all. B URSELF DUDE
Social networking is fine! As long as you don't do anything stupid, which sadly, lots of kids do. Facebook is a great way to keep in touch with your friends when, say, you move across the world. But meeting someone new and then two seconds later you arrange to meet somewhere is really shady! o.o I'm not that paranoid about that stuff happening, but yeah.
Also, the age limit is thirteen. Thirteen seems like a fairly okay age, but hi, seven year old kids get on there and then friend shady people. And like Phantom said, haha, those kids say some darned terrible things.
Again, technology is a great way to talk to people when you honestly can't meet in person. But I think it's better face to face contact is better by far!
Technology helps me and my homeschooled/cyberschooled friends in that respect, yes. But I also have one of my friends who recently got into this girl and now can't hold a conversation with anyone because he's busy texting her. I've seen that sort of absorbption happen to way too many people >|
I know that it's worked for people here, but stuff like Zoosk or whatnot is all kinda... iffy. I also think that you can't go "omg! that person is my MATCH!!!" Chemistry works much better in real life most of the time, and I feel like those dating sites are all schemes to make money >| Also they're ways for people to pretend like they're dating but they're being lazy. I've heard older people go "I'm on eHarmony! I'm dating a super cool guy. It's much better this way because I don't have to work hard to go see him or anything like that, we just chat online." If you don't care enough to go meet the dude/girl/whatever else, it probably isn't worth it.
Also, I don't think that people under, say, 15 should be dating online! Too many ways to get hurt that way. >/