ell, no, I mean the only reason abortion can be moral is if no one wants the child. I'm pro-choice, and I don't think the foetus is a child, however that doesn't matter. See, if the parents want to have it, it's their child. It may not be human, yet. It may not be a thinking entity, but it's still their child.
A mother-to-be might tell her family that she's 'having a baby'. What she won't say is that she's gestating a foetus that one day may be squeezed out of her vag and therefore be considered alive. My point is that the parents don't care if it's born or not yet; It's still their child. It's not a foetus, it's their child. Killing said child, inside or outside of the womb, will have the same effect on them emotionally. That's kind of why miscarriages are a big deal. If a baby's stillborn, the parents don't just say 'eh, fuck it. let's make a new one'.
And so, if the dad really thinks of the foetus as his child, as his bouncing baby boy perhaps, then wouldn't it be immoral to kill it? What's difference does it make (to the father) if it's killed inside of or outside of the womb? He'd still have lost his kid, he'd still have lost all his hopes and dreams about how this child would turn out.
Well, I suppose this needs philosophy.
For my epistemology, I will suppose there is two different levels of truth (truth is defined as a piece of information that is applicable in predicting behavior or people or objects and is thus valued over false information which has no such qualities.)
Subjective truth: Information about objects or people (or even hypothetical objects or people) that may or may not be true that affect people regardless. The amount of value in the truth depends on how many people believe the information to be true. For example, knowledge of the theology of the Abrahamic God is useful information because many people believe it to be true and make decisions based on Him even if it isn't true. The tricky thing is that the value fluctuates and can plummet to nothing unlike Objective truth.
Objective truth: Basically, information about objects or people observed to be or deducted to be true. Again, the amount of value in the truth depends on how many people know if it. For example, raising funds for an expedition across the Atlantic before the times of Hellenistic Greece's advances in geography will be tricky because of no one believing of anything of worth beyond the Atlantic, or even that there is anything there. Thus, your knowledge of a semi-spherical Earth would be useless. The nice things is though, is that generally, once an objective truth is discovered and becomes wide-spread, it will almost never lose value.
For my ethics, I will assume the categorical imperative of mutual continued existence, that is, an overriding principle is the continued existence of a person (and all people equally), and this includes both direct factors (direct threats to life) or indirect factors (threats to shelter, food, drink, happiness, etc.) that can affect continued existence.
Thus, in a classical ethics model, the action that puts the most amount of people's existence in jeopardy is unethical, and the action that puts the least amount of people's existence in jeopardy is ethical.
However, in applied ethics, one does not usually have indifferent care for the mutual existence of everyone, but has relative values based on emotional investment. Therefore, in applied ethics, the action that puts the person with the most amount of love invested's existence in jeopardy is unethical, and the reverse is ethical.
There is also anthropic principle ethics, that is, one must preserve one's existence or existence-lengthening factors so that one can make moral choices on the above, as absence of one's self, you can't make ethical choices.
Which to apply in what context if they come in conflict is an interesting moral question, and can be shown in many works of fiction, like in the 2001 Spider-Man film, where Spider-Man was (supposed to be) forced to chose between Mary Jane Watson, his love interest, and a bus full of innocent people by the Green Goblin [Classical vs Applied]. Or deciding whether to come out to one's parents. [Anthropic Principle and/or Classical vs Applied and/or Classical]
Connecting this back to the issue at hand, an abortion concerns a parasite (Objective/possible Subjective) or a child (possible Subjective) and the concerns of the foetus-barer (Anthropic/Applied) and the semen-doner (Applied/Anthropic). [Note: I use these over other terms because a foetus-barer and the semen-doner could be any combination of genders.
However, I say that one should go with the foetus-barer's concerns as they will be more impacted by the event because they live with their own body all the time, wherein the semen-doner is not impacted as much as they don't occupy the body at all or see it as much. Thus, Anthropic in favor of the foetus-barer. As well, the foetus not being a child is a Subjective Truth that the would-be aborter puts value in, and because the choice ultimately belongs to them, any other Subjective or even Objective Truth matters not. It would be wise for the semen-doner not to pressure or guilt the foetus-barer whatsoever as this will negatively impact both and have no affect.
Therefore, in response to this:
The reason I ask this is because my girlfriend told me she's pregnant last night, and she's considering an abortion. I have no idea how much I should be able to persuade her, and I've already gotten attached to the idea of having a kid.
I say: Have one at a different time after she aborts it. Its not that hard to be inseminated again. I guess I just don't understand what the difference is between a foetus and a lot of stomach fat (or a tumor or parasite to be more symmetrical in properties), emotionally, and I don't see why others see different, however, I've attempted to logically defend (abit sloppily) my position to be subject to further debate.
*Raises hand*
Question!
Is foetus like the technical spelling, or is it just a spelling I haven't heard of before?
Its the Commonwealth Spelling, derived from fœtus, and like most American spellings, they favor changing 'œ' into 'e' while like most Commonwealth spellings, they favor changing 'œ' into 'oe'. I prefer Commonwealth spelling because I am a rabid Anglophile.