Well, long story short, I feel like on this forum it's become "cool" to be a jackass to everyone who isn't in your clique. Established members can do everything short of directly insult a member who doesn't meet their arbitrary standard of quality, and they can even do that frequently enough because the moderators usually turn their heads the other way.
For a forum that apparently prides itself so much on liberality and free-thinking, there's a lot of close-mindedness on this forum. People who don't type properly get screamed at, but it's avant-garde to post without capitalization or punctuation. Heaven forbid you do that if you haven't enough forum cred to get away with it, though.
Used to be that I'd recommend this forum to people because I felt it had higher standards than others, but nowadays I'd tell them to stay away, honestly. It doesn't take a lot to get someone on your case looking to grind your face in the dirt because you broke some unwritten rule of forum etiquette, or dared question some prevailing opinion.
Okay, so you're "right" and they're "wrong." Maybe you're so right and they're so wrong that I don't even need those quotation marks. That doesn't mean you have any excuse to treat them like dirt. It's perfectly possible to run a tight ship without making a mockery of everyone who doesn't meet your almighty standards. It's perfectly possible to express disagreement without making the opposition feel stupid or in general insulting them.
And it's not even good argument practice. If someone says, "I like IE because it's easy to use and I've never had a problem with it," there are some flaws in their argument. But making some snide remark about it, whether or not that remark is totally accurate, doesn't actually further your case. People don't respond well to what they perceive as attacks on their intelligence, and if your response is along the lines of "oh my god I can't believe how people are too lazy to try something new why are they all such sheep why are they not as informed about this issue as I am here lesser being here are some resources to correct your egregious error in judgment" they are probably going to be less receptive to, say, switching to Firefox than they would be if you had been just *slightly* less offensive.
That, and the in-group does a lot of disgusting, "Yeah, you're so awesome. I'm so awesome. We're all so awesome--except you, you just don't measure up." There's a very powerful hierarchy here, and if you don't fit in near the top, you have to tread extremely carefully not to get ripped into.
Now, some members are strong enough to get through the derision phase. They clean up their posts, suck up to the right people, and eventually earn a favorable rating on the elite members' scale. But far more don't. Some would argue that that's a good thing, that we're driving out the dreck. But I think that it's not right for a small group of people to decide what sort of people are "acceptable" and discard all the others. Given time and--not even encouragement--a little time to learn how things work, most people do get better.
So, I feel like people around here are drunk on power and prestige and quite happily taking it out on people who happen to not share their views or who haven't quite figured out how forum posting works. In the end, there are going to be lots of people on any forum whom you don't like, threads you don't like, whatever. But here people actually actively eliminate these things rather than realizing that not everyone's forum experience is made favorable in the same way.
I know that if I hadn't joined here ages ago and had responsibilities to attend to, I would just be, "Well, fuck this. These people are just a load of dicks." and get the hell out of here. As it is, I rarely venture outside ASB and a couple other forums anymore because of all this nonsense. And I realize I'm far from blameless here--I've been harder than I should be on some people whom I just don't like, even though I try to be fair. I don't infract people, even when I think they should be infracted, for being assholes, because I'm too afraid for my own precious reputation and power to actually invite a contest of power against them. I get snappy, I want to bash in the heads of people who are, in my opinion, just acting dumb. But I do try my best to be civil and explain why I take issue with what they're saying rather than just letting them know that I think they're being stupid.
Which is not to say that I think everything should be roses and happiness and sunshine and omg friends!!! There are a lot of members who annoy me, too. There are some people who Just Don't Get it Why Are You Still Posting. But if they make a topic that's well-intentioned but dumb or ask a stupid question, then a bunch of people swoop in with stuff like "best thread ever" and in general have a good laugh at that member's expense, it not only makes those members look like complete jerks (which, in fact, they're being), but does nothing to actually improve that member's behavior.
So I guess I feel this forum has become more a place where you can express your opinion if it pleases certain members in high places and where you can get away with just about anything if enough influential people find you "amusing." Where people would rather sneer at members who don't please Their Lordships or who are having fun in a way that is just omg so stupid you guys than actually attempt to change things. Well, whatever. I just don't find this forum's prevailing sense of humor pleasant at all.
...now look what you made me do. I was supposed to be working. ;-; Sorry if it doesn't make much sense, I wrote it all out of order.