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The Sex Industry and Prostitution
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Dannichu
Tragically unbeyachted.
I can totally understand that some people see sex as something more meaningful than others, but pretending it's the same as anything else you'd do with your friends is stupid. If Friend A's friend Friend B made her "do an activity" with them that she didn't want to do - kareoke, say; she wouldn't enjoy it and she'd be, at worst, pretty annoyed that they dragged her along knowing she didn't want to go. If Friend B made Friend A have sex when she didn't want to, it would be rape and Friend A would suffer much greater preprocussions than "mildly annoyed"; possible trauma, STDs and/or pregnancy.
Again, casual sex between two (or more) consenting adults = totally fine. But the need for responsibility and explicit consent between the partakers makes it different to other activities.
In any case, society says sex is special, which might make no difference to you, but there are many places where having sex with someone can lead to you being executed.
Dewgong
babababa
well yeah, it is loving. that was really poorly worded what i said i have no idea what i meant but... i guess i just don't see it as being that special of a thing. it's like, they always say "wait until you find the special one asdoufhsdf" i don't really see the point in that, it's not a special act or anything. don't do it with random people, but blahblahblah you have a better point than me.
Felidire
Banned
Thing is, I can guarantee that you will remember that first time and that first person, probably for the rest of your life. You could have sex 50 times after that (with the same, or with different people) but you will always remember that first time above most others, and probably remember it a lot more vividly.
Some of us want to save that first time, to remember sharing it with someone special.
That's the only reason I can think of, and I think it's a fairly good one if it means something to you.
Dannichu
Tragically unbeyachted.
Regardless, I think the emphasis put on women's virginity - particularly in regards to those god-awful chastity ceremonies and even traditional marriage, with the whole white-wearing thing, especially when it's related to her virginity somehow 'belonging' to someone else, like in the 'father giving away the bride' tradition - is both sick and creepy.
OrangeAipom
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SUBCONSCIOUS INCESTUOUS THOUGHTS!!!!!! D:
I don't really understand how prostitution works, but if legalizing makes things safer, go right ahead.
There should be a national age of consent for the US to make things less confusing for pornography. It could be professional or amateur, like normal videos, and that's fine.
I don't really understand how prostitution works, but if legalizing makes things safer, go right ahead.
There should be a national age of consent for the US to make things less confusing for pornography. It could be professional or amateur, like normal videos, and that's fine.
Tarvos
helt plötsligt blev det tyst
I don't see the ritual as being about virginity. I like traditional marriage because I feel it encapsulates my idea about my relationship with her; if I promise myself to someone, I promise myself 100% and totally. She doesn't belong to me, either: we belong to each OTHER. That is the idea I have about marriage and hence why I do want a ceremony; maybe not a religious service, that depends on the girl I'm going to marry, but I do want to go through some of the traditional rites of marriage.
Minish
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I've never really seen prositution as wrong, as a concept anyway. I just feel sorry for the people who feel they have to become prostitutes just to get a bit of extra money and end up with STDs because they weren't careful enough.
I think people should try to have sex first before watching porn. As in, wait until you've had sex. I know this probably won't happen to a lot of people, it just annoys me with people at school talking about how they and their girlfriends were going to re-enact porn scenes for their first time and how that porn was exactly like sex and if a girl doesn't make her boyfriend feel like it's the same they're bad. But yeah, if you're mature and whatever and know that porn isn't actually like real sex, then fine. That's why I approve more of amateur sex because it's more real, and less manufactured.
I actually watched an interesting little documentary-like thing on the TV where this guy who did porn was interviewed, and just talked about what it was like. And that every 20 days or so you have to be checked for STDs or you're not allowed to work.
Oh and sex toys wth why would they be immoral? Unless you're some kind of SEX IS HOLY religious person or something?
I think people should try to have sex first before watching porn. As in, wait until you've had sex. I know this probably won't happen to a lot of people, it just annoys me with people at school talking about how they and their girlfriends were going to re-enact porn scenes for their first time and how that porn was exactly like sex and if a girl doesn't make her boyfriend feel like it's the same they're bad. But yeah, if you're mature and whatever and know that porn isn't actually like real sex, then fine. That's why I approve more of amateur sex because it's more real, and less manufactured.
I actually watched an interesting little documentary-like thing on the TV where this guy who did porn was interviewed, and just talked about what it was like. And that every 20 days or so you have to be checked for STDs or you're not allowed to work.
Oh and sex toys wth why would they be immoral? Unless you're some kind of SEX IS HOLY religious person or something?
Felidire
Banned
Don't feel sorry for them, it's what they choose to do. I mean, if I were broke and starving I still wouldn't do what they're doing. Would you? ,xP
Porn is just moving pixels or printed-on paper. Does anyone else actually find it kinda funny that people are turned on by such things? It makes me laugh.
Dannichu
Tragically unbeyachted.
That is... horrible. Prostitution is (the vast majority of the time) a horrific, terrible job and I feel absolutely nothing but pity for those poor people who honestly have no other way of getting money. There's a special kind of desperation when someone reaches the point where they'll let people pay to violate their body (I say 'violate' because I can't think of a better word; if someone consents to sex it's not rape, but if someone consents but still doesn't want it, I'm of the belief that it can still be as traumatising); and it's not possible for you to say "I still wouldn't do what they're doing" because you have absolutely no idea what it's like.
Um, not really. All films are a series of moving pixels, and there are movies that make me happy, sad, or whatever. People can be moved to tears by a beautiful piec of artwork; why's it so weird that people would be turned on by an erotic photo?
GameFreakerZero
The hypest
Please keep two things in mind:
1. Your mindset is not the absolute that humanity has. People are different and are driven to different things by different means. Maybe you wouldn't but there are people who would and we should be trying to help them rather than saying how weak willed they are.
2. You aren't broke or starving. You are hardly qualified to evaluate what extremes you would go to if you were unless you've truly been in such a desperate situation.
Could be worse.
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Dewgong
babababa
not really. it's the same thing as you laughing at a bunch of pixels on the screen in a funny picture.
even this font is made out of pixels.
Felidire
Banned
Well it's not weak-willed if it's something they want or have no problem doing.. Like you said, everyone is different, how are you supposed to help someone if that's the way they are..
Uhh.. I think I know myself well enough to say what I would and would not do..
LOL, yeah I guess so.. sad thing is, I think there are some people like that as well. ,xD
Dewgong
babababa
well... again, you're not in that position. you couldn't say. even if you know yourself, if you've never been in a position where you would need to do n your attitude or whatever might change a little. you might end up doing something you never though you would do.