We got lucky that Earth met the almost impossible conditions for life, and I'm sure we aren't the only lucky ones.
I know you're not really saying this, but you reminded me of how a lot of people say things about how 'lucky' or 'amazing' it is that Earth's conditions and placements are perfect for the development of life. This ties in with the thing about life-not-as-we-know-it like some posted before. No, it's not that Earth is perfectly suited for us, we're perfectly suited for Earth. If the conditions weren't right we wouldn't be here to say they aren't, so it's a pointless idea.
Anyway, yeah, it's very nearly completely impossible that out of 200 billion stars in our galaxy, out of the countless galaxies in the entire universe, and out of some number of possible 'other universes' (Which I'm rather neutral on, who can really say? And even if they did, so what?) that there has been only one instance of Life.
And, on the subject of aliens, what is Life, really?
The Other Wiki says living things usually exhibit most or all of these traits:
Homeostasis
Organization
Metabolism
Growth
Adaptation
Response to stimuli
Reproduction
With a little thought, you could use these traits to classify something distinctly not alive as a living thing, like fire, for example. It doesn't exactly fit all the traits (only, metabolism, growth, reproduction, and possible response to stimuli), but this just opens the door for looking at Life. Like others said, why do we only keep looking for life similar to us? Carbon-based, needs water, cellular, solid (as opposed to gas or liquid (plasma?)). I guess it's because that's what we know the most about, but still, it seems rather shortsighted.
As for other species contacting us, it makes sense if they had a higher level of technology than us then they would probably either try to contact with someone, or, depending on their personalities and emotions, they could possibly abduct a few for research. If they were less technologically advanced then they'd probably either hide in fear or, again, depending on their nature, contact us, somehow. Possibly through math, as they say it's the universal language.
I think it's rather obvious that other species would be nothing like us, or anything found on earth, given our current understanding of evolution and life. It would be extremely interesting, though, if they were similar to us or some other Earth species, as that would either imply a common ancestor or some sort of order to how life forms, with the possible implication that whatever they resemble is the closest to a sort of 'perfect organism' in the sense that it has traits that are universally useful and would have evolved into.
I do find it annoying how some scorn the idea of aliens or even things like SETI because of the few who claim to have seen UFOs and the fanatacism surrounding that, although who know? Maybe they're right.
Oh, one more thing. To those who say that, yes, life is likely to exist elsewhere, but the chances of them visiting us is incredibly unlikely because of the massive distances involved, it's just as likely that some race developed 2 light years from us as it is that they developed 200 billion light years from us, so nothing is safe to assume.
Additional discussion idea: pyramids and other ancient structures and how they possibly relate to aliens.