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The LGBT Club
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Angua
.ɯɐs 'noʎ ʞuɐɥʇ
Oh, I forgot about this! ><
I'm bisexual and I'm actually quite proud of it. I think my mother's starting to suspect I'm gay - I've been talking a lot about homosexuality and once asked if transseuxal operations can be MtF and FtM. She just looked terrified and said that she had no idea. I've also been trying to be more masculine, but it's failing terribly.
Maybe it's because I'm bi, but I don't see how it's possible to not love someone just because of their sex. I mean, to me that's as shallow as only loving someone because they're pretty. Not that I'm calling all you gays and straights shallow - I just don't understand it. Could someone please explain?
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I'm bisexual and I'm actually quite proud of it. I think my mother's starting to suspect I'm gay - I've been talking a lot about homosexuality and once asked if transseuxal operations can be MtF and FtM. She just looked terrified and said that she had no idea. I've also been trying to be more masculine, but it's failing terribly.
Maybe it's because I'm bi, but I don't see how it's possible to not love someone just because of their sex. I mean, to me that's as shallow as only loving someone because they're pretty. Not that I'm calling all you gays and straights shallow - I just don't understand it. Could someone please explain?
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octobr
silence is scarier
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dudes are still total jerks
*GO TEAM MALE*
and also
yes but the guys don't get as good a dick as the chicks get a vagina. I mean, they can actually use theirs and everything. And guys have to get a huge SKIN GRAFT off their arm which is pretty grody and even then the whole thing ain't too grand.
And don't try to be more masculine or feminine or androgynous than you really are. Relationship-wise you can get in deep shit for pretending to be someone else.
Alliniere
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LONG POST WARNING
Kay, to avoid confusion, I'mma give some of the definitions for how I consider certian words.
Sex: Physical characteristics, a Vagina(female) or Penis.(Male)
Gender:The combination of traits associated with a certian sex. Females act like girls (usually) and Males and like Boys (usually)
Transexual: A person born one sex, but is truely a member of the opposite gender, no sexual pleasure from dressing as the opposite sex. Usually desires to change their body to resemble their true gender.
Drag King/Queen \ Transvestite: A person who dresses to parody, rather that become the opposite gender, often with some form of sexual pleasure from doing so. Doens't usually want to alter their body.
Alliniere is a woman... with XY Genes. I've known since childhood, but have only been trying to do anything about it for 3-4 years now. When I was a kid, I went as the pink power ranger for Halloween and would often try to play female roles when we played dress-up... I eventually conformed to society.. (shame is a great teacher v.v) and created a fake person to live as... after something pushed me too far, I tried to end my life, though over dose, and were it not for the timely arrival of a friend who knwe I was home alone, that I was depressed, and wanted to see me, I would have died, I had taken a combination of blood thinners, heavy amounts of caffiene and asprin. my blood was water, rushing waaay to fast... So I told people... my parents told me to forget it... told me to wait until I was out of their lives...that I was wrong, and troubled... They had a bad impression, due to a cousin of my mom's that transitioned from Male to female, then back, and was an ugly, unhappy mess. They, in all truth, just want me to be happy, and to have an easy, normal life. then, my dad, the one person I didn't tell, found my female clothes... forced me to get rid of them. He "forced" me to see a therapist... she was a specialist in homosexual family relations, but knew almost nothing of transexuals. She focused on mainly "why" I felt this way. There is no why. Why doesn any other woman think they are a woman? It's pretty obvious, and it's nothing to do with. One more year, and it won't matter what my parents think, I can finally begin my transition. I'm going to a camp in august, where i'll be myself for 3 whole days! Very excited... I'm lucky. I have a baby face. Even now, at 17, people ask me if i'm a boy or a girl. I avoid the question altogether and jsut say "I'm used to that, I've been getting asked it since first grade". Which is true. And depending on how I talk, they decide I'm sorely tempted to abuse that.
I don't care about gender or sex when refering to someone I like.. Maybe it's because iIm lucky enough to get to see both sides, but I really don't care about it. I like "Rachel" because she is "Rachel", not because she's a girl, and I'd like "Rachel" the same even if she was "Henry".
Kay, to avoid confusion, I'mma give some of the definitions for how I consider certian words.
Sex: Physical characteristics, a Vagina(female) or Penis.(Male)
Gender:The combination of traits associated with a certian sex. Females act like girls (usually) and Males and like Boys (usually)
Transexual: A person born one sex, but is truely a member of the opposite gender, no sexual pleasure from dressing as the opposite sex. Usually desires to change their body to resemble their true gender.
Drag King/Queen \ Transvestite: A person who dresses to parody, rather that become the opposite gender, often with some form of sexual pleasure from doing so. Doens't usually want to alter their body.
Alliniere is a woman... with XY Genes. I've known since childhood, but have only been trying to do anything about it for 3-4 years now. When I was a kid, I went as the pink power ranger for Halloween and would often try to play female roles when we played dress-up... I eventually conformed to society.. (shame is a great teacher v.v) and created a fake person to live as... after something pushed me too far, I tried to end my life, though over dose, and were it not for the timely arrival of a friend who knwe I was home alone, that I was depressed, and wanted to see me, I would have died, I had taken a combination of blood thinners, heavy amounts of caffiene and asprin. my blood was water, rushing waaay to fast... So I told people... my parents told me to forget it... told me to wait until I was out of their lives...that I was wrong, and troubled... They had a bad impression, due to a cousin of my mom's that transitioned from Male to female, then back, and was an ugly, unhappy mess. They, in all truth, just want me to be happy, and to have an easy, normal life. then, my dad, the one person I didn't tell, found my female clothes... forced me to get rid of them. He "forced" me to see a therapist... she was a specialist in homosexual family relations, but knew almost nothing of transexuals. She focused on mainly "why" I felt this way. There is no why. Why doesn any other woman think they are a woman? It's pretty obvious, and it's nothing to do with. One more year, and it won't matter what my parents think, I can finally begin my transition. I'm going to a camp in august, where i'll be myself for 3 whole days! Very excited... I'm lucky. I have a baby face. Even now, at 17, people ask me if i'm a boy or a girl. I avoid the question altogether and jsut say "I'm used to that, I've been getting asked it since first grade". Which is true. And depending on how I talk, they decide I'm sorely tempted to abuse that.
I don't care about gender or sex when refering to someone I like.. Maybe it's because iIm lucky enough to get to see both sides, but I really don't care about it. I like "Rachel" because she is "Rachel", not because she's a girl, and I'd like "Rachel" the same even if she was "Henry".
octobr
silence is scarier
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Alliniere
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To the first part: I've heard MANY, MANY different definitions, wanted to be clear on them.
To the second: I'm pretty scatterbrained, and by a certain point, I was ranting out things that I wanted to say rather than staying to a point. >>.
For clarification, I'm m-t-f.
Dragon_night
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Why is it that guys want to be girls and girls want to be guys?
I mean, I hate being a guy. Testosterone is useless, and my teenage hormones only make me do stupid things that I 'though' were good at the time. >.> I'd rather not be horny when I am, because nothing good come of it.
Although, hearing of how much girls hate their bodies, I'm not too sure I'd like to be one (because I don't want to go through a period. Ever.)
Gezz, both girl and guy have fault which suck. >.> There's just no middleman person (or maybe there is...)
I mean, I hate being a guy. Testosterone is useless, and my teenage hormones only make me do stupid things that I 'though' were good at the time. >.> I'd rather not be horny when I am, because nothing good come of it.
Although, hearing of how much girls hate their bodies, I'm not too sure I'd like to be one (because I don't want to go through a period. Ever.)
Gezz, both girl and guy have fault which suck. >.> There's just no middle
octobr
silence is scarier
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See the flaw in your question is in the question itself.
We aren't guys that want to be girls or vice versa; there is no real 'want to be' for us when it comes to gender, given that a transwoman is a woman, she just is male-bodied.
But I understand what you're asking.
And here's the thing:
We're not thinking, jeeze, being a girl sucks! My boobs hurt, my period just came, I feel fat, and none of the boys at school like me. I wish I were a guy!
Because seriously that's shallow as hell.
I'm thinking -- being a girl is all right: plenty of girls do it fantastically, and they're happy... being a guy isn't that great either, I mean, their lives suck just as much as girls' do. But all the same I shouldn't be stuck as a girl. I'm a dude, dude.
Also middle man androgyny hurr.
YOU KNOW WHAT shush. (guess who just got his last night. As he was having a nice conversation. blah blah blah.)
Keltena
I told you – I'm always with you.
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Well, I personally don't see how it's possible not to love someone because of their body (although there are of course people who do so this probably isn't helping), but it's way possible to not be physically attracted to someone because of their body, and that's just not something you can control. I'm attracted to guys and girls, but I'm pretty sure I'm not attracted to any other sexes, so while I could theoretically fall in love with, say, someone intersexed, I couldn't exactly control whether I was attracted to them or not...?
...concision is obviously not on my side today. I... hope that made some sense?
Mr Marzipan
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Angua
.ɯɐs 'noʎ ʞuɐɥʇ
Both genders are good; Freema is better.
...Sorry. You said you weren't in the mood. I've been having difficulty-
Scratch that. I haven't been able to write lately. Or sprite. Or eat or sleep. When I joined, I had this huge post planned, but it came out as two incomprehensible paragraphs. Whatever's wrong with me, you've got it too, so I can sympathise. Not that that'll help. I just hope it goes away soon.
...Sorry. You said you weren't in the mood. I've been having difficulty-
Scratch that. I haven't been able to write lately. Or sprite. Or eat or sleep. When I joined, I had this huge post planned, but it came out as two incomprehensible paragraphs. Whatever's wrong with me, you've got it too, so I can sympathise. Not that that'll help. I just hope it goes away soon.
Dragon_night
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I didn't mean it to come out like that XP I just meant, I hear of girl wanting to be boy's because they're gender isn't 'right' for them, and then I here boy's saying the same thing, because of the fault their gender's have.
And, when I said 'hearing of how much girls hate their bodies' I mean their gender, not because their too fat, or don't have this or that.
octobr
silence is scarier
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should i chant some dark magic to revive this
NECROMANCER anyways.
I just wanted this to live. I could babble at you guys about the woes associated with having all female friends that support me being girly and also being in dance and liking ballet and pointe and finding out I'll have a solo in two years that's hypergirly and flirtatious but hella fun and impressive ...
but other than the minibabbling I just used as an excuse, hoho, I won't.
What do you guys think of the name koby? :V
NECROMANCER anyways.
I just wanted this to live. I could babble at you guys about the woes associated with having all female friends that support me being girly and also being in dance and liking ballet and pointe and finding out I'll have a solo in two years that's hypergirly and flirtatious but hella fun and impressive ...
but other than the minibabbling I just used as an excuse, hoho, I won't.
What do you guys think of the name koby? :V
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Dragon_night
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