You might notice this forum has become a place for all queer people to group towards. There aren't more ace people here than there are, say, any other quiltbag people. In fact I'm pretty sure there are less. But I don't see you questioning the honesty of gay members or bi members or any other members.
Again, why is it jumping the gun when someone says they are asexual but not when they say they're gay or straight or bi or anything? Do you think that, for some reason, it takes more self awareness to know you're not attracted to someone than to know you are?
Kids know all the time that they're gay or bi or trans when they're so young as 6 or 9 or god even knows. Why is that completely normal but knowing you're ace isn't? I don't get it.
...um. I'm wholly supportive of asexuality, but do you
really not see the slightest bit of a difference between assuming you're gay because you're attracted to the same sex and assuming you're asexual because you're not attracted to anyone?
Asexuality is defined by a negative. That doesn't make it less valid as a sexual orientation, but that
is a very meaningful detail when it comes to 'diagnosing' it, so to speak. Not wanting to jump anybody's bones at the moment does not mean you're asexual, least of all when you're at an age where you probably
wouldn't be attracted to anyone either way. I thought even kissing was gross and was determined to be single my whole life until I was fourteen, but then one day suddenly boys were cute. Then I still wasn't crazy about sex for a few years and identified as heteroromantic asexual, but what do you know, when I was eighteen or nineteen or something my sex drive woke up. Oops.
So when I see fourteen-year-olds pronouncing themselves asexual? Yeah, I sort of wince and think they should probably wait a bit. If you're attracted to your own sex, you're attracted to your own sex; there's no disputing that. There's even less disputing it if you're attracted to both sexes. But
not being attracted to people isn't an indicator of asexuality; it's just not an indicator of any other sexuality. If you've been a fully mature adult for a couple of years and have still experienced no attraction to anyone whatsoever, then yeah, you're pretty definitively asexual. And if you're a teen who hasn't been attracted to anyone I'm not going to tell you, "Oh, you just don't like anyone
yet," because yeah, you could easily be asexual, and far be it from me to try to push you into the sexual mold. But asexuality, by its very nature, just
isn't something you can know for certain until you've ruled out the "hormones haven't kicked in yet" explanation.
Again, this does
not make asexuality worse, and I fully agree on the "hope you're not asexual" comment. But you cannot stand here insisting that knowing you're asexual is perfectly equivalent to knowing you're gay or bisexual. It is simply mathematically impossible.