I heard of this one lady who spanked her adopted Russian son just for him to be normal. I don't see any logic in that...
I think spanking a child is wrong, because it harms them, of course, and it makes them SCARED to mess up (They think if they mess up, they'll get spanked again), when people need to fail to know not to make the mistake again
Okay, this is just... a little out of line.
I'm not sure what religion you guys are, but I'm going to use this quote from the bible (I'm not using it religiously, so don't sue me):
Proverbs 19:18;Discipline your children while there is hope. Otherwise you will ruin their lives.
Aura, I understand what you're saying. HOWever...
You gotta do what you can while it works. I know you said that they'll be afraid to step out of line, but don't you guys get it? That's the point! Eventually, they'll forget why they're afraid, they'll just remember it's wrong. Giving them a stern talking-to doesn't really lay down any lines, because next time they're about to do said action, they won't look back and say, "Oh, if I do this, I'm gonna get spanked." More than likely, they won't even remember you told them not to do it. Actions speak louder than words, as they say.
Also, this supports what I say (You gotta understand that I'm not influencing you to believe the bible, I just can't say it any better myself):
Proverbs 13:24"He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes (diligently)."
If you're not punishing your children right, how are they about to end up? No restrictions, no lines drawn that separates what's right from what's wrong other than a few words that they have forgotten since.
Now, that's not to say I'm not against child abuse. No, I strongly disagree with child abuse, but when it's merely a spanking or such, it's not necessarily child abuse. Pain is only temporary, while abuse is forever. Child abuse is a terrible thing, and it should never be practiced.
A child's mind is of foolishness, while a smack will send them driving away from it.