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Public displays of affection

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This is pretty light-hearted compared to most of the debates here, but it still has room for opposing views and it won't surprise me if people start to... well, oppose them.

It mostly depends on how, um, intense the act is, but most forms of affection make me smile. :3 Making out in public is a bit much, but I always like seeing couples hugging, kissing (neatly, not bordering on making out), sitting close on a park bench/bus/what have you, ...

I'm curious to know what others feel.
 
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Re: public displays of affection

I pretty much share your view. It's sort of an eye-roll moment when I see a couple totally going for it, though. Otherwise it's just "okay, so they're obviously together."
 
Hugging, kissing, hand-holding- Okay!

Making out- Meh. Just don't be too distracting or annoying.

Sex- I think that should be more of a... private affair.

I agree with Departure Song in that the world needs more love.
 
Do whatever you will. If people don't like it, it's their fault for being narrow-minded.
 
I'm OK with people kissing and stuff. I only think it's weird if a husband randomly goes to their and grabs their butt or something.
 
I've got no problem, with it, but I don't think sex in public is a good idea, simply because people will likely find it offensive (and I don't really understand why you'd do that anyway, but eh).
 
I think couples holding hands, kissing, hugging, etc are coolio (and often really cute, especially if they're old(er) people :) ) but I kind of think people eating each other's faces in the street or school or whatever's a bit much and exagerated.
Then again most people grow past that stage.

I think public sex is ambivalent. Just having sex out in the open isn't very polite at all is it, neither would it be good for the kids who happened to pass by, but if you want to organize a public sex thing by inviting people to watch or do it in a hidden, secluded area then whatever.
 
i personally don't like it and neither does my girlfriend, so we've decided we ain't gonna be that mushy
 
Once I didn't really like public displays of affection. Then I got a boyfriend and now I can't keep my hands off him in public. :(

Really, it's just cute, at least when it's not overly sexual. Seeing other people get actually lustful with one another is awkward because you feel like you're intruding into something private, even though since they're doing it in public they presumably don't feel that way. When it's just an expression of love and affection, I don't think there's anything wrong with it.
 
i personally don't like it and neither does my girlfriend, so we've decided we ain't gonna be that mushy
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idk, I think I'm pretty open about this sort of thing and it doesn't affect me much. But honestly there are still kids at our school that yell 'get a room' to my boyfriend & I when we hold hands.
 
i don't care.

our school tried to make one of those no pda rules and as expected, nobody cared. at all.

kissing and hugging is cool, but anything more is sorta... odd. not really offensive, just something i didn't leave the house to go see.
 
I guess I'm the same as pretty much everybody else. I really only have apathy for these kinds of things unless it's full-on face-mashing-together making-out. Once it gets to that point or above I'm gone. I can't take it, it makes me feel disgusted really. Holding hands, hugging, and quick quick kisses are fine by me. Hugging exspecialy, I glomp pretty much all of my friends regardless of gender.
 
PDA can be a little... irritating, at my school. Holding hands, kissing, hugging, whatever, that's fine. But as I am at a boarding school in northern Maine, in the winter when people can't go outside and make out or whatever, some public places in the dorms can be... dangerous. Couples. Making out, all over each other, everywhere. Honestly, it is a problem because it isn't like they shouldn't be allowed to do that, and there's not really anywhere to go.

Interesting that this subject came up, because I actually wrote a paper about it this year. Basically everyone at my school is always really irritated by the amount of PDA everywhere. I actually got some pretty hilarious quotes for that paper;

“When the bloody hell did all the couples decide to use strength in numbers to monopolize the lower lounge? I mean, it's a bad sign when every few seconds someone begins walking down the stairs, and the ‘couple police’ shake their heads grimly to signify it isn't safe...”

“It is rather exasperating when I want to go to the kitchen or the vending machines and am instantaneously bombarded with the sight of boyfriends on top of girlfriends and people making out left and right in the lower lounge…couples should respect that it's a public area and no one wants to see PDA all over the place.”

And believe me, everybody's very open minded. It's just that constant, over-the-top PDA everywhere is... well, exasperating is a good word, I suppose.
 
My school once put a blanket ban on this. Girls couldn't hug other girls if they were best friends or anything, not that anybod cared. It lasted about a week.

Personally, as long as it's not choking-on-each-others-tongues kissing, it's fine with me.
 
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