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The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)

I haven't been pissed off at straight people as a whole before, but maaaaaan.
So I've recently had to move to Bournemouth, and I have no friends. Luckily, all my sister's friends are my age, so it's not like I have nobody.
But today's the first time I've gone clubbing here, and, for some reason, we went to a gay club.
It's... Pretty fucking weird. It's, like, when I go to 'gay' places, I feel sort of 'free'... Like, nobody'll judge me if I act like myself, you know?
Of course, the people I was going with all went in there ~ironically~. Yeah.
So I mean, this is my first club since New Years, and my first gay club in years.
It was hell. I love gay-clubs - they're so much more fun than regular clubs... That is, when you're with accepting people. When you're with bigots, it's absolutely shit. You have this amazing atmosphere, amazing people... IT's freedom, you know? Except you can't partake in it, and it's fucking AAAAARRRRGGGGGHHHH
'Course when I found out they served Jager, I was prepared to just tell everyone to fuck off and have fun. Which is when the person I'd promised a taxi-ride to decided she was tired.
Fuck sake!

Man, I really wish I'd taken y'all up on your offer when I was still in Cardiff. :'/
 
Lorem Ipsum said:
Hello QUILTBAG, very real question here for everyone. Pubic hair or no pubic hair - which do you prefer on your sexual partner?
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I'll take it one step further and say I'd rather they have no body hair at all.

Anways, can I join? I know I don't fit any of the letters in QUILTBAG, but I'd still like to join.
 
Hey everybody. Long time no post. Been super busy. I know this may be a stretch but have any of you heard/attended MBLGTACC? by any chance?
 
Lorem Ipsum said:
Hello QUILTBAG, very real question here for everyone. Pubic hair or no pubic hair - which do you prefer on your sexual partner?
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I don't really mind! I guess I kind of prefer with hair just because removing your pubic hair seems to be an unavoidably uncomfortable or painful process. :/ shaving is horrible, waxing really fucking hurts. I mean props to people who are willing to go through that or don't mind it or prefer no hair, but to me it seems not... worth the effort, I guess? I dunno.
 
Yeah, getting rid of pubic hair is really different to anywhere else. :V Even shaving there hurts a lot, takes ages, doesn't work well, and can be reeeally not good for you. idk even if I was randomly super-against pubic hair I don't see why a stubbly crotch would be much more attractive ...

Your stories are all pretty sad!! :c I don't really have any advice for anyone, but I assume everyone is cool with using this place as mostly a place to vent companionably.

Um! I'm going to a trans* workshop tomorrow?? I think it'll be like, mostly educating about trans* issues, and I use the asterisk since mostly here that definitely includes non-binary things. It should be fun and interesting, yay!
 
Saith, if you're in Cardiff again and want to meet up with a group of LGBT+ friendly people then I strongly recommend Cardiff University's LGBT+ Association. It's one of the biggest and most active LGBT societies in the country and it's really inclusive and welcoming. My boyfriend is the gay welfare officer and he's fantastic at what he does (and I'm not just being biased here because we're together, he's actually very good at the job), and our LGBT+ elected officer in the Student Union is one of the nicest and most intelligent women I've ever met. Our trans welfare officer is absolutely wonderful, too.

We take a lot of non-Cardiff University students (so that's Glamorgan or UWIC or Atrium and some people who aren't students at all, or who are friends/significant others of Cardiff students) so you'd definitely be able to come along to something and it wouldn't be a problem. Like I said, we have a fantastic society and a brilliant union, so you'd be welcomed here. It's just something to consider, and this applies to anyone in the Cardiff area. Kinova's come along to something before (and it was a bit of a flop because of the weather, but that's Wales for you), and we have other UWIC/Glamorgan/Atrium students around too (and people here on industrial placement years etc).

On a slightly related note the society just went to student pride in Brighton. I went along because someone dropped out of it at the very last minute and it was a really fun weekend, although it was basically just one massive weekend of touring some of Brighton's gay venues. Not much political or entertaining happened apart from one thing at the Corn Exchange (and it was boring), but I had a nice time! Brighton's a really nice place and its gay scene is really fun. I didn't see a lot of it because I skipped most of the pub crawl to stay at the hostel for a bit with my boyfriend but it's really nice. Interesting place to be gay!

Also, since I came out to her my mother has been acting very weird. She's said some silly things and it's been awkward and stuff, but I think she's got over that now, which is really really good. Yay!

(I figured it would be good to share a nice, happy story! Those exist too! It gets better etc etc etc.)

edit: re: pubic hair again: I think removing it completely is kind of weird. Like, do it if you want and that's cool, but I don't personally like it on a guy. I like hairy men and although trimming is essential (hairs get stuck in your teeth otherwise and that's very unpleasant), completely shaved just looks odd to me. A lesbian friend of mine says that she refuses to shave because it's itchy and stubbly and uncomfortable and makes her feel like a child, but that she's perfectly happy to trim purely out of courtesy to her girlfriend, because hair in your teeth is icky.
 
...Christ, am I the only one who prefers no hair?
Even on myself.
I dunno, shaving is unpleasant? But if I just leave it there it gives me the jibblies and makes me feel really dirty.
Fiance says the same about herself. So.

We finally got her parents to be semi-okay with me living there for a while! It... only took a therapist yelling at her mother. This has been a pretty big issue for us for a while, apparently they think I'm some kind of con artist or something? I dunno.
HOWEVER.
I need references (job interview style) and no one I know irl actually... knows I'm... engaged.
Sigh.
 
I don't give a crap about hair on other people; it doesn't remotely impact if I find them attractive. I personally enjoy shaving though? I just like how it feels to have no hair down there, as it were.

It also gives me an excuse to take ages-long showers.

It's the only place I do shave, though. I like my straggly fur.
 
I know this is a bit strange now of all times (I'm 19 and have been very sure of my sexuality before) but I am wondering if I am bi or not. I mean, it all started when I admitted to my boyfriend that I found my friend attractive. Apparently that makes me bi or something I dunno. And now I keep trying to wonder if it is attraction or not. The funny thing is, Matt Smith aside, I've never really found anyone physically attractive before. I'm attracted to personalities more than anything, I don't really care what they look like. So this is all a bit confusing for me. Reading about female sex turns me on (that's why I started writing my fanfic after all) and apparently watching porn of it does to, as I found out a few days ago (I'd never watched porn before and my boyfriend put on a threesome on and it was odd and oh no).

So, I know I am attracted to men, but not really sure if I am attracted to women or not. I don't think it really matters in the end, as I am in a relationship, but I like being sure of my identity and this is puzzling me.

On the subject of pubic hair, I don't really care. I find it odd without, sure, but I'm sure I wouldn't really mind.

I did shave once. That was painful as I never shaved before and I have sensitive skin. My ex stopped having sex with me after that...I wonder why. XD
 
i will like, never, be able to come out to my dads family. also, i hate my cousin. she was talking about a friend of hers who identifies as pans and peoples reactions were disheartening. not really bad, just disheartening. this same cousin was talking about deliberately provoking a friends anxiety (which i suffer from) which made me really scared to tell people. what do?
 
QUILTBAG people y u so non-queer lately
here have some Star coming out

Went on a class trip to Berlin which I totally forgot to tell TCoD about. Was sitting around with some people playing Truth or Dare when suddenly

"...alright, of all the people here, which would you first choose to make out with?"
"Hm... well, I'm kind of stuck between her and him."
"Wait, you mean Tom?"
"Yeah, he's cute."

Later on

"...hey, Star, are you gay?"
"Nah, I'm bi."
"So you like girls and boys?"
"Yep."
"Really?"
"Yep."

So that's that over with now time to try to explain my gender to them fuck yeah
also I consider myself an aromantic pansexual at this point
but I didn't feel like explaining pansexuality to them
 
Automata heart said:
i will like, never, be able to come out to my dads family. also, i hate my cousin. she was talking about a friend of hers who identifies as pans and peoples reactions were disheartening. not really bad, just disheartening. this same cousin was talking about deliberately provoking a friends anxiety (which i suffer from) which made me really scared to tell people. what do?
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If you genuinely think they'll react badly, it might be best to not come out while you're living with your family, if you feel comfortable doing that. I'm no good with family, but you shouldn't let your cousin being an idiot make you scared of telling anybody - just because certian family members are disheartening doesn't mean, for example, your friends will be. If you think you can find support elsewhere, go for it.

Also, here's a thing I've been meaning to post for ages. It's an absolutely excellent play that's a dramatisation of the courtcase to overturn the ruling of Prop 8 (banning gay marriage) in California. The cast could not be more excellent - Martin Sheen, Kevin Bacon, George Clooney, George Takei, Jane Lynch, Jamie Lee Curtis, Matthew Morrison, Brad Pitt and more. The whole thing's just under two hours and is the most moving thing I've seen in a long while. You'll cry.

If you don't have ~2 hours on your hands right now, at the very least, watch this bit, with Chris Colfer playing a witness providing testimony about his homosexuality and experiences at a homosexuality conversion programme.
 
I would like to join this club as an Asexual and an ally.

I have no sexual preference nor want for sex with anyone, so, yeah. I only have emotional connections. Woo.

Is it really "queer" if you have NO preference? Cause I thought "queer" only had to do with preferences as in actual sexual interest other than heterosexual. Do correct me if I'm wrong. I've never thought of it that way. *shrug*
 
Well, queer also applies to gender, so that doesn't really makes sense. But you don't have to use the label if you don't want, obviously.
 
Ok then. Was just kind of wondering if it was really that much of a blanket term. I probably wouldn't use it anyway... Asexual is more specific, and I prefer to be specific.
 
queer is more like if you don't wanna rattle off all yo shit like it gets to be a pain in the ass if you have to go yes i am trans male panromantic pansexual and polyamorous so you just

queer

it's just if you're not the 'norm' as it were
 
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