By complaining about "stereotypical" effeminate gays, you are being no better than any other homophobic person. You are being judgemental against these persons because of the way they behave. And yet you expect people to not do the exact same thing to you? Way to be self-centred. They're actually, you know, running the club.
Well, I mean, I don't care that they're stereotypical or effeminate. Do whatever the fuck you want, I actually don't give a shit. It's just that I didn't want to join it for gay friends, I wanted to join it for, like, sex: I'm simply not attracted to that sort of gay. I basically assumed (perhaps erroneously) that the club was filled with that kind of gay, so... um, yeah. But, like, when everyone assumes you're straight it's sometimes a bit difficult to actually empathise with stereotypical gays. Srsly.
sure but I imagine not joining a lgbt club for that reason would be equally counter-productive, right? I mean not only are you letting that stereotype affect you, but then you're also devoiding the club of not-feminine gay men (if you are gay, anyway).
but I mean. fair enough not joining if you don't think you'd like it. I think a lot of people assume that if you're not straight you should join an lgbt club, which is stupid.
Yeah, I mean, I basically didn't join for two reasons: 1) I really only sort of want to meet guys to have sex with them, 2) I'd like gay friends with similar interests. I've found that the hardcore stereotypical guys typically don't share my interests and I actually get along far better with straight men. It's just how it is. So, like, yeah. I'd join, but I don't think I'd enjoy it. Gay clubs aren't my thing.
That's disgusting. So what, we should discriminate against camp gays only now? "Sorry, we'd really prefer you not to run the booth; you see, you're just a stereotype, so you're not good enough in representing LGBT interests". What if they're the only people who volunteered or something?
That's not what
I was saying. I basically meant "the stereotypical guys put me off joining because the implication was that that was the entire club". I don't really care what sort of gay you are, I just... well, I didn't want to join if it was
just that kind, and the booth sort of implied that. Plus when I walked past the fat Asian gay was all "OMG YOU'D BETTER BE GAY, PLEASE BE GAY YOU'RE HOT" and I was like "...ffs"
When you let stereotypes control your actions you're legitimizing them. Your club reps shouldn't need to be anything other than people that are into glbt peeps and straight peeps being bros.
The people who should run the club are the people most interested and most capable of running everything and drawing people in for discussion. How's that sound?
(So this old couple sat in front of me on the bus today. They were talking hushed+excitedly about going to a lady gaga show and I thought it was socute :3)
Well, the LGBT+ Association is technically just for gays and lesbians and bisexuals and maybe trans people, but they do mostly gay (male) events, and that's why I was interested. Why I eventually didn't join, though, was because it didn't seem like something I'd enjoy. It might be somewhat surprising, but when people meet me they actually assume I'm straight. It makes it sort of awkward. Like, really awkward. I'd rather be surrounded by other gays like that simply because that's what I
am, and it's what I like, and really I sort of want to get laid sometime this year.
Um. Yeah.
